My hubby watches porn n jerks off. That I could handle as my health hasn’t always been great and a man has needs. Problem is I found a site he has been on that is more like home movies with the option to chat to people. I feel this has taken it too far. Am I wrong to feel like he’s cheated on me? I’ve lost all trust in him. Any advice appreciated
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Viewing porn is one thing. Chat pages are another. My husband watches and wanks to porn too and Im OKay with that. A chat page/forum/group is NOT okay.
My thoughts exactly. I honestly feel like I have been cheated on. I just wanted others opinions as to whether or not I am over reacting.
I feel like they’re two different levels as well the talking is different I don’t think I would personally be ok with it but don’t mind at all that my partner watches porn
He told me he only watches it for the p$&@y but chatting that’s a while other level and these are real everyday people not some professional acting
Totally different, once you engage with someone else like that it's crossing the line in to infidelity
I think it depends if he were actively hiding it from you. On another note I think its really important to put boundries in place about what you are and aren't ok with. My husband knows that anything that involves chatting or instruction or any communication whats so ever is something I am not ok with. What people are comfortable with varies, some women wouldn't be ok with porn at all and some would be ok with cam girls ect. Hence why its important to voice where your line is.
EVERY RELATIONSHIP IS SO DIFFERENT - but personally I don’t consider it cheating as a first offence but I wouldn’t be happy. I’d try and have an open conversation and just be honest that porn is ayy okay but this is a boundary that has been crossed, in the future please don’t do it because I feel a certain way.
However, if it happened after the conversation, I would consider it a betrayal.
If this is something you haven't discussed and its something that makes you upset or feel cheated on then it is not okay,
Talk to him say that the chatting crosses your boundaries and it needs to stop. Also be VERY clear that you are okay with him watching porn and getting off.