Apologies for this being long.
Has anyone been in a relationship with someone who had completely different parenting views to you?
Or you still are? And can offer any advice?
We both have a child each from previous relationships, he's child's mother is still involved with his child and my child's father isn't/hasn't been in child's life.
I'm starting to struggle with the non-direct judgement towards me from my partner because of what he 'supposedly' believes.
Not going into specifics, my child now needs doctors ect for on going issues and this stuff I can not discuss or mention around him because he doesn't believe in doctors and all them professional and important my child needs and I'm not great with confrontation and he knows this (he goes into hours and hours of why his opinion is more valid than mine).
He also allows his child to talk about death and everything similar, constant playing video games ect and it's all rubbing off on my child which are negatively affecting my child.
His child bags mine out because my child doesn't understand what his child says ect.
I love him and absolutely love and adore his child but it's starting to become a problem, or am I turning this into something that it's not?
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Either you need to be the mediator or the leaver.
Decide what is best for you and your child. Good Luck.
A relationship is never going to work long term, when one party doesn’t believe in a child receiving medical treatment and that parent continually over talks, rants etc about why they are right.
Get your kid out of there. You are under reacting here. This guy is never going to be on board with your child’s treatment plan, and will undermine your parenting at every turn.
Nope, this is a problem.
Differing parenting style I could deal with, judgement, disapproval, superiority and outdated views on medical care isn't something I could or would want to tolerate in a blended family situation.
This relationship will not be good for you or your child. As much as you love him. You need to ask yourself “is it worth it to be treated like i am not worthy of respect?”
If your daughter came to you and asked you this question what would you say to her.
You are worthy, you are doing a wonderful job. Do not let him tell you otherwise. If he doesn’t respect you the relationship is not worth it. You may adore his child but that is not a reason to stay and put up with his behaviour and how he treats you!!
Anyone that doesn’t believe in Doctors or medicine is a moron! Get rid of him.