Today my kids and I became known in our town as victims of domestic violence.
Today a random stranger had to come to our aid.
Today I had police officer ask me to fill in a protection order against my husband for our kids and myself.
Today I had 4 police referrals sent to agencies to help me leave my husband.
I'm scared, I'm tired, I'm lost and I have nobody to turn to, he made sure I never made friends when we moved and my mum is so far away now, she is all the family I have left now, I haven't even told her what happened yet.
I'm holding it together in front of my kids, putting on my brave face but honestly, I'm falling apart inside, I don't even know where to begin to put my life back together and move on from this. I could use some direction, some inspiration and most of all a friend.
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What general area?
Its early days. Its always rock bottom at the beginning of moving forward. It will get better , i promise, and as you look back, you too will know it.
Check in with ypur mum . Involve her in your progress. You will get there.. things at first will seem like they are moving slowly but you will come out the other side for the better.
You will know when you've reached the other side of this as u will look back with no regrets and no more emotion.
I’m sorry this has happened.
I’d start with a text message to my mum. Saying it in text is easier and letting someone know breaks the silence.
The first steps are always the hardest part, you have been broken down, and the journey ahead seems almost impossible. But just take each day as it comes. Start with figuring out where you will go to whether it be a shelter or even to your mums to begin with. Then take each challenge as it comes every hill you get over will mean you were in a better position than you were the day before. And just remember in the long run you will be happier, and your kids will be happier and the challenges you have gone through together to get there will make you even stronger. Good luck
I'm on the outskirts of Rockhampton region but I'm thinking of moving back to Brisbane area as mum is in Ipswich
I told my mum, I was scared to tell her because I thought she would say I told you so (she never liked him didn't even come to our wedding) but she didn't she was supportive.
I have an appointment with a women's legal advice service on Monday about the house and orders for the kids etc and victim assist is in contact with me now too, quite surprising how fast this is all happening, I feel like I don't have time to think, they ask me all these questions and I just don't know. I'm bunkering down with the kids this weekend, I have the house at the moment and the number for a police officer in case I need it. Thankyou all for replying xx
I'm glad your mum was supportive, 9 times out of 10 they will be but there's always the few that think it's all too hard.
Sort out your supports and see what your options are.
I wish you the best of luck going forward.
I remember being reported to child protection as a victim of DV, the fear I felt in that moment for my children was terrible. I remember going straight to the Centrelink office and staring at the screen wondering how I had gotten to this point in my life and feeling so alone. I still remember thinking 'one day I will look back on this, it will just be a memory'. I broke down crying in front of the staff and they immediately put me in with a social worker. That was years ago now and I look at how much I have changed, the strength I found within me and finally, finally! some happiness. You are going to be okay, you are going to be better than okay.. even if you do not feel it right now <3
I am a police officer
Also a victim of domestic violence
Try to get home to my Mum in Bundaberg
Happy to help you - if you need any advice
Sending hugs