Do I just give in to sex!

Anon Imperfect Mum

Do I just give in to sex!

Hi,
I’m married with 5 kids.
I haven’t had sex with my husband for a good six months.
Our communication has broken down. He is not one for affection and romance. He thinks I should be in the mood of wanting sex. I think I have just got over him grabbing at my boobs every time we went to cuddle.
I find we are both being stubborn.
I find he’s just happy with the sex where I want the love and affection first.
I do love him.

Posted in:  Relationships & Marriage

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Sex is the least of your worries. How can you both expect to be in a happy and healthy relationship when your both being stubborn and refusing to work together? Sort out your communication issues then I’m sure sex will follow

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Giving into sex isn’t the right way to go. You both need to learn how to communicate again. I’d try marriage counselling.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Go and get some councelling. 6 months is a long time, you must really have some issues in your marriage to not want sex in that long. My marriage broke down and that was the sign. Tell him exactly what you need: dinner out at a restaurant, massages, dates, romance.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

In my life, I have always disliked sex. I do it when my husband wants it just because he wants it. In return, he does things for me he also probably doesn't want to. It's all give and take. I don't have to love it or be pleasured by it. I have to love my husband and tend to his needs, the same way he does my needs. Obviously, I don't always give him what he wants 😂 Think of it not as giving in, but as doing something that makes your husband happy and talk to him about doing the things that make you happy.
Give and take, give and take, give and take.

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