Okay so this is a bit long but I don't know what my next step is...
So my partner and I have been together for 7 years, we have three kids together and our lives are like hot and cold so to speak.
One day things will be fine others not so good, my partner loses his temper and will go off at the smallest things (like me asking for help or cause I forgot to do something) I've been called names, told to f*** off as he doesn't love me anymore, told to pack my bags and leave, he regrets having children with me .. he will do this even if the kids are there in the same room. It happens more when he is playing his games or drinking. But it always goes the same way he has and episode then hours after or the next day apologises for what was said then we are good for a few days, maybe a week then it happens again. I just don't know what to do I've suggested maybe he needs help but he goes off every time I mention it.
I just don't know what to do or where to start...
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Next step? Leave! Look for rentals and get away from this horrible excuse of a man.
Gees are you sure he’s not on drugs too 🤦🏻♀️ He sounds unbearable to live with and not to mention the detriment impact this will have on the kids hearing how their father wishes he never had them with you.
Leave honey and don’t look back you and the kids deserve waaayyy better than this.
Yuk. Why stay there? Why let your kids live with that. He’s playing games with you and your letting him by staying. Walk out the door and don’t look back. Take back your power!!!!!!!
sounds like someone with an addiction coming down 😬. That aside show your kids this is not how you treat someone , get your ducks in a row, find a rental, tell someone you trust, talk to centrelink, real estate if you are renting, get a lawyer if there are assets to split, record the drama if it's needed for custody. Move out, do it when he is at work and don't look back. No one ever deserves to walk on egg shells not knowing what is next. Free yourself and your kids from the stress of that living environment.
You can do this!
I lived this life and I chose to
Stay for way longer
Than I should. I am
Now seeing the damage it caused to my children as they are
Both boys and my oldest speaks to anyone and everyone exactly how I allowed his father to speak to me. These sorts of men feel that you will never leave because they have sucked every ounce of self esteem out of you. Don’t let this happen. Do what you can and pack up your kids and leave. I did and left with nothing. I was lucky to own an investment property at the time that I could move into but if you need to rent a property do this. It won’t be easy I can vouch for that but the immense immediate relief once you close that door and know that he won’t be coming home is liberating. And for me six years later I am fighting cancer
And still would prefer that over one more day with the pathetic excuse for a father my boys have. He is still an abusive person and very self centred. They don’t change, sadly. Cut your losses and leave. I promise in a year or two you will wish you had done it years earlier xxxx