My kids are boy 9 girl 7 kids father has a new partner her boy is 11 nearly 12 found out they make my daughter and him share a bed (not big enough house when my two visit) am I wrong for saying I don’t want that to happen? I don’t want my daughter sharing a bed with him being that age my thing is kids are exposed to things a lot earlier these days
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No, I wouldn’t be ok with that. One of them should be on an air bed on the floor if there isn’t a proper bed or sofa bed available so each child has their own bed.
No, this is an OK time to kick up a stink.
Where does your son sleep? I wouldn't be ok with this. Especially being a new relationship.
Just so I've got this straight, they've got your 7 year old daughter sharing a bed with the new girlfriend's almost 12 year old son?
Where does your 9 year old son sleep?
Yes that is putting her in a dangerous position. Ark up for her safety.
No way would I be ok with that!
No way!
Sharing a room I would have no issue with. But sharing a bed is too much. That should absolutely NOT be happening. Can they get bunks or two separate beds in the room? If not, the couch or a fold out camp bed would be a much better solution and this needs to happen ASAP. Even if u have to be the one to buy a fold out camp bed. They are about $80 and even cheaper from MarketPlace
Wait up a second...
Do you mean your 7 year old girl is having to share with the 12 year old boy that belongs to dad's new GF?
Or do you mean that due to limited space your 7 and 9 year old children (and biological siblings) have been sharing a bed?
If it's the former, and I mean this in the most respectful way but are you sure?
It just seems bizarre to me that 2 adults/parents looked at the situation and decided that was an acceptable and appropriate solution! I mean, I have a 12 year old son and I'd never in a million years allow this to occur under any circumstances.
If it's the latter - complete non issue. Certainly less than ideal but fine temporarily.
Not a chance I’d allow this!!
I feel sorry for the 12 yr old and agree I'd be concerned for safety of my daughter. Don't send them again until there us suitable sleeping arrangements.
Not a chance in any form of hell.
Sexual abuse is common enough without setting the perfect scene for it.
I'm a survivor of abuse at the hands of my own family so maybe I'm more cautious than most, there is not a chance I'd have those kids, or even your own two share a bed. At this age, not even a room.
I know many do for their own convenience. It costs more for the bigger house. I just hope their kids never live the hell that is being sexually abused and being very fucking aware it was made more possible due to sheer laziness and stupidity of their caregivers.
He'd get a house that fit everyone or the girlfriend can sleep with her kid and your two in with dad or IMO he'd be on day visits.
As someone that was molested by my step sibling, it would be a huge no from me.
I dont even ket my own children if the opposite sex share a room
I would be requesting that the boys share until another bed/bunk can be obtained. Speak to your children about how they feel and encourage them to speak to dad as well.
My 2 shared a room u til they were 9 and 11.
When we moved in with my partner we now have 3 boys (son and 2 step brothers) in 1 room with a single and a set of bunks and she has her own room. When people come to stay she gets the option of a blow up on the boys floor or the sofa in the loungeroom. She is now 14 and selects the sofa.
When their dad and I first split they were 18 months and 4. I didn't mind them sharing with dad then but by the time she was 6 I requested she not share with her father anymore so she had the blowup and my son then 3 1/2 shared dad's bed as they were living at his mums, until they moved into their own place.
If dad refuses to get another bed then maybe if you have a blowup offer to send it but I'd still be suggesting the boys in the same room and her with her own.
Hell no! Why would they do this - if they need to share wouldn’t it be more logical for her to share with her brother? No way is this okay. Do not let your kids go back until this is sorted.