Well where do I even start.
I was in a 8year emotionally abusive relationship.
I spilt from this relation 15months ago, the last 15months I have been harrased and abused constantly.
I've tried to keep things civil for the sake of my child but recently he asked me to come help him at his house which was his father's house and has physically assaulted me.
The issue is when I rang the police I was having a pannic attack, police arrived, to sleep alcohol due to having alcoholic l thrown at me during the altercation, and wasnt able to speak, with out a stutter due to the pannic attack.
They camopletely disregarded the fact I had said I was assualted and went to asked my ex what has happened and if I had been drinking, he has stated I was heavily intoxicated, which is not true, I was irractic, which was also not true and that I had tried to commit suicide in the toilet and his had to kick the door open and I've then assaulted him which is also not true.
Police put a dvo against me on his behalf and taken me to the hospital where I was treated like I was crazy.
Police stated in the dvo that I was intoxicated, and I had assualted my ex after attempting to take my meds in the toilet, and that I had no injuries or marks on my body.
Once a social worker seen me in the hospital and seen I had a torn shirt multiple bruises on my body, she asked me what happen, I've told her the actual truth , that he had been verbally abusing me where his thrown a can of alcohol at me, I ran to the toilet and locked myself inside and started to record the inserdent on my phone, his kicked the door open, grabbed me by my shirt and torn my shirt as his dragged me out of the toilet where he proceeded to man handle me until I had fell on my back, his realised I had recorded the inserdent, snatched my phone from my hands and I've ran to the door, had multiple items thrown at me as I've ran, once outside his father has come out and waked me in the face as he shouted to get of his property, I stated I need my phone so I can call someone to pick me up, his then said you can not have your phone because if that video is put in the wrong hands him and my ex will have to do something they do not wish to do. I again stated I can't leave, I need my phone to ring someone to pick me up, my ex and his father have pushed me down the drive way telling me to get off the property, i was outside the gate and said can I please have my phone so I can leave, I don't want to be here just as much as you don't want me here, my ex has then smashed my phone and thrown it into a paddock and him and his father have walk back toward the house, I've gone be to look for my phone in the paddock where my pannick attack had started to kick in, I fell to the ground trying to catch my breath as I hypoveterlated, suddley I heard my ex shouting running towards me, I got up and ran into traffic to flag down a car, and a man has stopped and rang police for me.
Since this inserdent he has had my children, I went to court today about the dvo and gave my version of what happen, my lawyer is organising a dvo against him on my behalf, and adjourned his current dvo, she also organised lawyers for family court and has advised me to collect my children from school while he is not there and take them somewhere safe until all this is organised Properly and legally.
My question is, I've seen cases of parents collecting children from school and hiding them and it back firing on them, has anyone had success doing this?
If his told the school to not allow me to take the children can the school refuse without legal documents stating I cannot?
Has anyone been wrongly accessed of dv and it actually been the other way and had success.
Also without my phone I cannot provide screenshots of abusive and harrassing messages via snapchat from the last few months and I do not have the video of his abuse so is there a way of proving years of abuse without them?
I've been told the fact it was stated I was intoxicated will be thrown out due to no blood and alcohol reading was taking by police but that doesn't prove I wasn't not intoxicated aswell
I'm really stressing out about this, I'm concerned about my children and scared this is all going to go very wrong.
Please someone give me some positive outcomes from the same type of situation I'm terrified right now.
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I’m so sorry this has happened to you. I think the best advice you can receive is from the professionals - legal and psychological. Seek out your local woman’s centre for assistance
Sorry this is happening.
You can take them from school, the school can contact the other parent but they legally can't do anything without court orders and even then they can just call the authorities. Problem is that if you take them from school are they continue to continue going to school with you or will you keep them home. If they go to school he can take them and do the same to you.
If you have reported these occurances to health professionals (hospital, psychologist, gp) the court can use them. If you have friends or family that can confirm the abuse they may be able to be called in court.
My ex is saying I am psychological abusing my daughter but he has shown that he has to her and our relationship together and since being apart he has psychologically and emotionally abused me. I have court next week to find out what will happen. But I have been told it is a long road and we are only at the beginning.
I hope you get your kids back and everything works out.