I am deadly against the pornography industry and this is something my husband (10+) is well aware of.
I was using his Snapchat (with his knowledge) to take a photo of our children and saw that his is friends with / following a woman who posts naked videos (you know the type huge fake breasts, limited to no clothing on).
It repulses me and I feel puts unrealistic pressure on me as I feel I’ll never be what he wants.
I don’t think this is ok. I don’t accept the boys will be boy analogy but I know the s$!&storm that will erupt when I raise it.
Husband following Snapchat nude?
Husband following Snapchat nude?
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Just let him have some privacy
Let him do him in his private time.
If he's done it quietly behind closed doors and you aren't any wiser.. let it be. You need to work on your own conscience and maybe understand the difference between looking and wanting. YOU ARE WHAT HE WANTS but he likes what he sees elsewhere.
So what advice would you like or is this just a rant?
🙄 oh please!
This ain’t a husband issue, it an insecure women issue. He can’t look at porn because you don’t have that kind of body. Maybe talking to a professional to work on your self esteem issues and pups be healthier than projecting your issues into your husband
Look but don't touch is the philosophy of many marriages. My husband watches porn in his private time and so do i in my private time. We both adore each other and would never swap that out for another. Neither of us would ever cheat on the other. But it's normal to look.
If you make a big deal of this, he will soon learn ways to hide it from you even more. Is he messaging her to catch up? Is he commenting on her photos in a lustful manner? No?
Then leave it be.
I feel like you are totally over reacting but on the flip side, you're dead against porn, and that's OK. But you have to realise you cannot control somebody else just because you don't like something.
Bring it up with him If u wish but don't be getting all shocked if you do find out down the track that he still looks, but via another platform that you dont know about all because you forbid him to look.
He obviously loves you and only you. He's just looking. He isn't going aywhere. So try not to make it harder on yourself than it's going to be once you make a scene about it. So i wouldn't if i were you.
And unlike porn where its all X rated , the snap girl he's following wouldn't be X rated but yet it still bothers you. It's not worth the shit storm you are going to create.
Just because you don’t like porn or big fake titts doesn’t mean your husband doesn’t. Leave him alone to look at what he wants (as long as it’s legal obviously). But if you continue to carry on and constantly remind him how much you hate it, he is only going to hide it.
Let your hubby wank to what he wants! But seriously, councillors for you I think. These issues of your are obviously pretty intense that you get jealous of porn because you don’t have their kind of body
I have a different view to most people here, probably most people in general to be honest.
I actually despise how normalised and easily accessible explicit content has become, it's not because I'm insecure either, it's because I feel there an unhealthy element to the constant in your faceness of it.
Yeah, porn and nudie mags have always been a thing but it seems to be infiltrating so many more aspects of our lives nowadays due to the advancement of technology, to the point it's interfering with healthy relationships.
I also see typical porn as an entirely separate entity to following some random on Snapchat for nudes because it really blurs the line between what is essentially voyeuristic fantasy and something that could potentially become interactive and real!
I could tolerate porn, wouldn't like it but I could put up with it if it didn't cause any other problems, nude accounts on social media crosses my personal boundaries though and I won't apologise for it!
The hot young girls that are on these nudie accounts definitely don’t want to meet or sleep with these men. It’s business to them. In most cases the men that look at these accounts are either young hot and single and want something to jack off to. Or older balding slightly fat and sad men that want something to wank over because their middle aged wives no longer like the idea of being touched let alone having sex more than once a month.
That really doesn't change my opinion on it 🤷♀️
Interacting with a real person for sexual purposes crosses a line for me.
I like Channing Tatum, its not love like how you love a partner. Stop putting yourself down. Maybe find some eye candy for yourself? Speak to him about agreed on boundaries.
Just because it is something YOU are against doesn’t mean he has to have the same view as you. There is no different to a women watching magic mike and them getting down to next to nothing to a guy looking a a few pictures of a chick wearing next to nothing. Let him have some privacy
Honestly if this is the worst thing in your marriage, count your blessings.
He's been married to you for 10, I think he knows your not going to look like this particular person.
My husbands "type" is Latino women.... My family comes from Ireland - so you get my drift. My "type" is black me... Husband could not be any more opposite.
Take it as you go and let him have privacy.