I recently walked in on my 13 year old son with his pants down and in a position which was pretty obvious as to what he was doing. I felt bad for him as he was obviously embarrassed and so I left the bathroom and closed the door.
I have not spoken to him about it since and I am wanting some advice on whether I should or not. His Dad and I are not together and he doesn’t have any interest in supporting him and talking to him regarding these matters.
Any tips or advice here? I am seriously not wanting to make things awkward or embarrassing but want to let him know I am here to talk if he needs.
My other concern is his phone access and porn or other bad sites I don’t want him accessing. Any tips on how to ensure he isn’t accessing this. Any good apps etc? He and I have a pretty open and honest relationship and he is a good kid so I don’t want to stuff things up.
13 year old and masturbation
13 year old and masturbation
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I have five son's and i never brought up masturbation with them. I might be old fashioned, but to me its a private issue that i don't think would be comfortable for them . I would never dream of speaking to my parents about masturbation as a kid.
I'd just pretend i wasn't aware that i knew what he was doing. Im almost 50 yrs old and some might see this as old fashioned but i wasn't raised to be so open about these things as a kid - to -
parent conversation, and i wouldn't expect my kids to be either. They are probably already discussing these things with their mates anyway.
Oh and just remember to knock next time you enter the bathroom.
I think regardless it will be an awkward conversation to have. I would probably say something along the lines of “sorry I walked in on you the other day, I’m going to be more mindful to knock before entering next time, I’m just letting you know that it is completely normal and that if you have any questions I am always here for you.”
It’s something simple that acknowledges what happened and that shows him you don’t see him any different and also opens the door for other uncomfortable conversations in the future.
Get a lock on the bathroom door.
I wouldn't say a word he will be mortified enough.
Nooo. Trust me, he will die a little on the inside if you try and talk to him about this specific incident. Right now he's probably hanging onto the hope that you didn't realise what he was doing, let him keep hold of that small thread of dignity lol.
Get a lock for the bathroom door, always knock on his bedroom/bathroom door.
Get a lock for the bathroom door and leave it at that.
Don’t mention it at all, let it go and as for the internet you will need to speak to him about that. Just maybe say to him that those sites are degrading and not real and you don’t want him on them. If you find out he has the you will cut the phone internet access off.
I'd just restrict access to sites and pretend it didn't happen.