Help! How do I get my 7 year old out of my bed? Have tried night lights, white noise, relaxation music, bribery, sticker charts , new doona cover etc.. She now just refuses to go to bed in there. Says she is scared of monsters under the bed. She will happily play in there alone day and night.
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Mattress on the floor and sleep with her for a few nights. I praise my kids and reward them by saying if we all sleep in our own beds all night, we all sleep well then we're not grumpy and I have energy to do fun things in the day. Only works for kids that can slerp through, but they get excited about trying and happy when they've done it.
Put her in her own bed, tell her to stop being ridiculous and to go to sleep. You can coddle her all you like but that and the bribes obviously aren’t working. She is old enough to go to sleep.
Hmmm. Telling her to 'stop being ridiculous' is a bit much. There are more calming words mum can use instead of something as blunt as your advice
If she has checked the room, brought her new things, done what the child wanted and everything else that hasn’t worked, then the child is being ridiculous. You know sometimes it is okay to tell and child something without sugar coating it.
Lavender room spray to keep the monsters away. Spray when it’s time for lights out.
Give her a spray bottle with water and a nice scent in it and tell her it’s to scare away the monster and anything else they might scare her, all she has to do is spray them with it. It worked for us. I also read telling them it’s not real doesn’t really help them as it’s a genuine fear so try and help her come up with ways to eliminate that fear. Good luck!
My son slept on and off with me till he was 13. For us , its normal . We loved our 'back cuddles' as we called them,... his back on my back all night long. We would snooze away all night , every night this way.
He's 15 now and wouldn't dare back cuddle me at night anymore. They do grow out of it.
Every family is different . Hope you find a solution
Has she always slept in your bed or is this a recent change?
Get storage boxes and fill under the bed. My kids both have beds now that have no space under, they have stacking beds which they both chose.
And then, as said above, you can just put your foot down. Sometimes I just lose it and say nope, no way, everyone in their own bed tonight, all night, or Im goimg to lose my mind. And im so tired of them being in with me that i do continue to put them back all night. But ive had times i couldn't do that. That works if they do sleep through, they know they can do it and they aren't completely terrified.
To be quite honest, I’d leave her be and snuggle up to your little person. She won’t be there forever.
Sage her room together, explain to her it will get rid of any monsters and then sit with her until she falls asleep, if she wakes in the night go sit with her again until she’s back asleep.