I HATE MY HUSBAND.
I f**king HATE him.
This is a rant! I don't even know the point to this post but I need to throw it out to the universe.
He's an abusive (verbal) drunk, always yelling and I HATE that my child is exposed to his assholeness. I'm at the point where I do not even argue back. But he makes up my responses in his head and essentially has an argument with him self about what I am thinking.
I HATE HIM!
I can't leave, I am stuck, I can't financially support myself and my child.
I walk out of the room and mouth to myself I F**KING HATE YOU!
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Go back to I cant leave. That is not true. Every time you say it to yourself, go back to it because you really can and you really have to.
With Centrelink, child support, rent assistance, community housing or a job there is no reason at all why you couldn’t support yourself and leave him.
Please leave 🙏🏼 For your child’s sake.
You'll get child support, single parent payment, rent assistance and family tax benefit. Even if he's an asshole and doesn't pay child support you can still support yourself. You'll be even better off if you are also working.
There are so many single mums because IT POSSIBLE AND it is better for you and your child to not be in that environment.
Stop telling yourself you can't leave. Thats an excuse. You're scared, but YES YOU CAN. Do it!! You'll never regret it!!
If child is 8+ you won’t get single parenting payment it’ll be jobseeker payment at the single rate, depending on your financial situation.
I hate him too!! The Fucking neurotic mug !
Tell us what state and area you're in so we can help you x
You can leave and you must leave for yourself and your child..Pleaseeee find a way to leave!!!!!
You can leave. Go to your local police, ring the domestic violence hotline in your state, there is help out there.
If you don’t, and your little boy continues to be exposed to it, he’ll end up traumatised like mine.
You have to find a way to leave him and you can do it. Get a 1 brm unit (you can get help for the bond etc). Apply for single parent pension and rent assistance and. Child support. Document everything he does and record him when he’s drunk and abusive for evidence. Get an interim order from the courthouse for sole care of your child as he is unfit. You can do this and have to for your mental health and the wellbeing of your child. If you are in Brisbane I’m happy to help. Hugs
Children observe relationships and imprint that as a standard at a very early age, your child will grow up thinking that your husbands behavior is "normal" and live their lives in the same fashion. You ultimately end up with a child that you will also not like.
Like everyone said, it can be done. I have done it.
Centerlink will support you financially and the amount of support you will get regarding the abuse is phenomenal.
Be brave not just for you but for your little one, you deserve better.
It I can leave so can you.
I was right here where you are. With 4 kids. I thought my only way out was for one of us to die. But I couldn’t leave my kids behind.
I ended up packing up a trailer & moving from nsw to wa. I’d tried to leave him before, but he refused to let me.
I’ve been here 9 years now. I own a home and work full time. While we’re still fixing the damage in ourselves, i know it was the best thing I have ever done. My oldest is the only one who still really struggles, but she was there for almost 10 years. I don’t know if I’ll ever heal, but I’ll worry about that once I know my kids are ok.
You have to leave. Trust me, you will make it work. Do not continue raising your child in that environment. I still regret to this day not only the time we were there, but the number of kids I allowed him to father.
Ranting is just as bad and physical abuse.
I suffer more from the effects of that and the triggers that come along with it than the physical abuse I suffered.
I still suffer anxiety almost 10 years on due to my ex ranting and carrying on when he was drunk, or any time for that matter.
If I hear anyone ranting or yelling it freaks me out and
I have to leave the room.
Now when my partner watches football and he gets a little passionate that his team is loosing I can’t stay in the room, I’ll go and watch tv in another room, not because he will do anything to me but because it triggers the ranting and carrying on feelings I got when my ex did it. I can’t handle the feelings I get from it.
My new partner is amazing and wouldn’t hurt me or even yell at me, I know that and he knows how I feel about the yelling and He try’s not to it but it’s his team and the passion that comes with it so I just go and do something else.
My eldest son is the same, he was exposed too as I thought I had no way out. I wish I’d left earlier!
There’s always a way, you will find it if you really want to, if not for you for your children.
I am pretty sure most banks have domestic violence support. Contact a DV hotline, your bank, centrelink and a womens shelter. There is help out there for you, please dont stay and let your child think this is normal. You both deserve a better quality life and a happy life
My mum stayed with my dad for the same reason, she was financially dependent on him and thought she was doing the best thing for us kids. He was an alcoholic, he was nasty and no father to us children. I would lay awake at night crying in my bed listening to the arguments, I would go to school and cry. I am now a single parent myself, yes financially it is a struggle, but money does not buy happiness and happiness is more important. As long as you have a happy home, roof over your head and food on the table - that’s more important. I believe mum staying did more damage by us all than if she left. My mum finally left but it upsets me constantly now knowing she wasted the majority of her life being unhappy. Get out now and create a life for you and your child - seek support. If you’re in any danger by leaving reach out and put the wheels in motion to make it safe. Contact Centrelink for financial support, if you have assets contact a solicitor or legal aid and seek your options and discuss child arrangements. It’s a tough road initially but there is light at the end of the tunnel.
You can get bond assistance and in special circumstances the 2 weeks in advance from government housing in addition to the other suggestions
Firstly you can leave.. stop making up excuses!! You will get help to leave. Financial and emotional support. Pack your kid up now and get out. Stop making up excuses. What would you rather be poor and happy or be miserable!! Do this for your son firstly and yourself. Stop exposing him to this the poor kid. Ring the domestic violence help line and get the ball rolling not tomorrow not next week.. NOW!! Your poor child!!! you are allowing this. Protect him and get out.!