My fiancé and I are in this stage where it feels like he’s more my friend and roommate. Sex is non-existent, dates rare, affection even rarer. I know he cares for me but I miss being in the ‘I adore you’ stage. But I also struggle with putting the energy in. I feel like I’m under so much pressure already between work, house and kids that there’s nothing left. He helps when I ask him to but we’ve both become overweight and quite frankly lazy. I don’t want this kind of life.. but I don’t know where to start.. advice would be really appreciated.
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Start booking some dates, putting in the effort, start eating better, moving more then if he doesn’t join you in the effort then you know it’s time to say Tata! Relationships are two people both responsible for effort and commitment. If you think getting married will fix it let me burst that bubble and save you the time and money - it won’t.
Start taking family walks everyday. Gets everyone moving which is good for all of you. Get everyone involved in menu planning healthy meals. Organise a babysitter for date night or plan a romantic dinner and movie for once the kids are in bed. Sit down and have a chat with him about how you can get the romance and intimacy back in your relationship. If he’s not interested in being involved in any of this, then perhaps he’s not the man for you.