My fiancé and I have been talking about getting married, now the problem is I want a wedding and he doesn’t. I understand why he’s against weddings, he doesn’t want to spend a lot of money on a one day event and his social circle is much smaller than mine, with conflict between those in it.
I know he’s very uncomfortable with the idea of the ceremony being full of my family and only a few of his so I’m looking for ideas for a compromise. He said the courthouse but I want something more than that.
Any ideas for a compromise?
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We eloped but nicely.
Still had a nice dress, fancy suit, in a lovely garden. Went away for the weekend. Had friends as witnesses and it was all super easy, effortless and fulfilling! All for under 2k :)
We did the courthouse. Painless, effortless and not expensive.
We had my mum and dad and my husbands mum and partner with us.
After we married we walked across the road to the pub for a cold one 🤣
The next night, we held a gathering at our house, bbq, drinks and cake for all our friends and family to celebrate with us.
I guess that could be a compromise? Do the courthouse, but have a gathering afterwards at home or elsewhere?
I honestly wouldn’t do it any other way. The stress and money I’ve seen put into weddings is crazy!
I’d have a celebrant and pick a beautiful scenic spot that’s special to you and your partner. Could be a park, a secluded beach, a lookout.
Friends just did a ceremony with about 15 close family members on the beach. They told their family it was a big family photo shoot for their engagement and surprised them with getting married. They had planned their ‘engagement party’ that night also so friend and more family arrived only to discover it was almost a ‘Wedding reception’!
I had beach ceremony and only both parents and both siblings and husbands that was it. It was perfect.
My immediate family is considerably larger than my Husbands family. We both are not very comfortable being the centre of attention, so we kind of eloped. We had the celebrant come to our home and had my parents as witnesses and our 18 month old son and we had our little ceremony at our dinning room table.
Could you just invite your immediate family and best friends and have a backyard ceremony and BBQ reception?
Nice and intimate and won't cost a lot