Hi Everyone,
Really need some advice please.
So my ex and I have recently split and live separately. We have a 8 month old boy together and each have two kids to previous marriages. We lived together for over a year and for many reasons it didn’t work out. Ie ( he kept online cheating and had a secret phone, I would blow up at him and did move his stuff a few times in the front lawn. His daughters mother kept interfering and not respecting boundaries. So fast forward to now, he said he is getting help for his behaviour and I’m also getting help for mine. He said he wanted to still be together but I couldn’t do it as I have no trust for him. We had a huge text fight over a week ago and since then he won’t talk to me. I’m also not talking to him unless it has to do with our son. I’m finding it really hard to be happy. I’m a stay at home mum, just started getting out and about exercising etc. looking at studying. He has seen our son once in two weeks over night for Father’s Day. I’m just really upset for our son and need to shake it. P.s . I have absolutely no family close by so feeling very alone. Any tips would be great thank you x
Feeling lost after break up with my sons dad.
Feeling lost after break up with my sons dad.
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The best advice I can give to you is it takes time.
Feeling sad and down are healthy reactions to the situation.
It’s probably a good idea to access your mental health care plan to get some pyschologist visits. That way you can talk through issues and work on healthy coping mechanisms.
Going through this and gave myself permission to feel what I need to for a week or so - was awful. Slowly I’m concentrating on what is important/ my son and my health. I closed the door on my ex and just started the healing process. Doesn’t help much but just know I know what you are going through. For me it’s probably easier as my ex isn’t fighting for me back
I'm going through a similar situation. My husband of 16 years has moved out for a mutual trial separation. We are still together but living separately. We are both trying to work out if we want to stay together or better off apart, and are trying to work on ourselves in the meantime. We love each other, but don't get along and whilst it's early days I'm torn as to what I want/what's best for the kids. My head knows we are better off apart but the thought is scary and sad, and the future unknowns are very scary. So just know you're not alone in feeling lost and unsure of things x