In July my husband said he doesn’t love me. That it’s everything about me. How do I rebuild my self esteem and self worth? I’m spiralling down the pity path but I don’t want to. It’s so horribly painful to be rejected out of the blue by the one person I always thought would be there - especially for our three boys. I feel so rejected and so useless and worthless- even a month later. I can’t get myself out of feeling like this
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You make him your ex husband and get on with having a great life.
Behave your way to self confidence and self respect.
He ended it and moved on with his new woman straight away
It’s hard, it takes time, but you need to learn to love yourself, lovely lady ❤️
It sounds clique, but it’s true.
Maybe get into some counselling to help, good luck xxxx
You start by realising it has nothing to do with you. It's on him 100%.
I don't necessarily mean that in a bad way either. Sometimes people stop being compatible, sometimes they fall out of love. You didn't, it was him that did and called it a day.
How you're feeling is normal, keep telling yourself everyday, multiple times a day, that although it's normal it's not true.
Fill your life with things you love. Do things with your kids. Do things for you.
And FFS don't regress when you find out he's with someone else. Pity the woman because you know his faults and continue being awesome.
There was someone else and you are right, I pity her
Thank you for replying. I'll get there - just so friggen hard.
Happened to me 4 years ago, no words can describe how hard it was. But I’m happy now. Still single but happy
It sux doesn't it. Glad you are doing well now x
Can’t really give you advise but I have been in a similar boat. My husband had an emotional affair with someone else as he said I was neglecting him and not showing him affection: so he got it somewhere else. My anxiety and depression has been really bad the last few months and have been struggling. It is really hard to love on and feel better about yourself. I tell myself that is his opinion of me and I still have many great qualities. He may not love you anymore but you have to love yourself. Kee your head up high luv
I've since found out that he had probably been doing the same. He has been sharing intimate details of our marriage to another woman which I think is the same thing. 😢 hope we both find happiness in ourselves in the near future - stay strong
What has his feelings towards you got to do with his capacity to be there for his children?
I think its important you do not view this as an attack on your children. My father told my brothers that my mother left "them" but the reality was she left him. That did irreversible damage they have never healed from. Male sure you don't do that to your sons. Please, I beg you no matter how hurt you are do not let your children ever feel like their parent does not want or love them
He left me and our boys. They are very confused. I have got counselling to work out how best to handle the situation with the boys as they are just so angry