Hey IMs,
I’ve had a great relationship with someone for over a year (friendship) and a couple of weeks ago we ended up sleeping together.
We spoke about it and neither of us are ready to take it further (he has mental health issues such as depression and anxiety and needs to get himself together - I’m not bothered) so continued to have a great friendship.
On Friday, his ex girlfriend called me off his Facebook account and accused me of sexual harassment. She blocked me off his account. She contacted me again off her own account with similar messages. I have since blocked and reported her. There is 0 truth to her accusations.
He’s apologised for this but has since seemed really unwell or not coping with anything really?
I realise being in contact with him may not be beneficial at all for me considering the dangerous accusations his ex has made.
I just don’t know what to do moving forward. Any advice? I’m having a stomach ache about this due to feeling stressed and worried.
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What did the ex say? Hard to give advice without more info. Also, how long have they been broken up and are they really over?
Doesn't sound like an ex to me. Seems like they are very much still invested. Sounds like he's probably been lying to her. Stay away from him otherwise you will be carrying both their baggage.
Cut and run.. a year friendship isn’t enough to bring in that kind of drama..
I wouldn’t even worry about some ex throwing that kind of shade- unless there’s more to it? Are you in a position of authority ie. his boss? If so- cut and run
My partner has mental health issues and loves attention from people however he seeks out the attention of women most of all. I was made to sound not only the ‘ex’ but the ‘crazy ex’ when we were in a relationship. In hindsight from her perspective believing him, I suppose I would have appeared that way because I felt so betrayed. I had an inkling of something because I had invested a lot in the relationship including in constant reviews with psychs per his requests and his mood swings and demands were unfathomable. When I finally figured out he was cheating on me, it was bitter sweet. On one hand I spent so much of my energy on this relationship and on the other hand he was someone else’s problem now. You might think I’m cruel but he felt like the game Jumanji. That didn’t last and he blackmailed me into coming back. Advise from one sister to another, mental illness is not so black and white. People with anxiety and depression can have other diagnosis they’re not willing to share. My partner kept his true side hidden for over a year until he couldn’t keep it going anymore.
Block him and her and start enjoying your life.