I'm needing help on where to go and what to do about my adult son whom lives with me and who has bipolar and possible drug problem. I'm wanting him to move out as this has put a lot of stress on me but I don't know what avenues to go through to make this happen, i dont want to kick him out with nowhere to go but i need him to have his own spacevand place. What do I do?
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Give him a date and follow through. If he has nowhere to go its because he hasnt sorted out a place because he knows he can force your hand and you wont follow through. Have the number for a long stay caravan park ready as his fallback plan if he doesnt sort himself out ( you can move in there on the same day as application) and follow through.
You haven’t had experience with people that have bipolar, have you?
Honestly, no, not much. I have a friend who rents fine. I see that he can hook himself up with drugs just fine, is an adult, and is unpleasant while in her home, and she thinks hes capable, so he does need to be out. You cant let the mentally worse off pilot the plane, I do have experience in that.
Give him a reasonable amount of time and help him prepare/write lists of things he needs to do. And guide him alone the way with rental applications ect
Connect with mental health services in your area and tell them what you want to do and see if there are any services that can help with the transition. I know some charities have housing available for people with mental health issues so see what's in your area. People with bipolar can be at risk of falling through the system and ending up homeless so try and help make it as smooth as possible rather than just giving him a date and telling him to get out, this could be too overwhelming and cause him to spiral downwards.
I agree, he needs mental health support, please help him navigate this, hopefully they will help him find somewhere to stay.
The give him a date and kick him out doesn’t work with a person who is mentally unwell, they often can’t take responsibility for themselves if they’re having an episode.
I suffer bipolar, and I truly know how my disability affects those around me. If he's in some form of manic he may not be on drugs, just simply high due to a chemical imbalance. Talk to him give him an aultimadum. Seek help, go on meds, or find somewhere else to go. Put a time limit on it also. Go to his appointments,give his specialist a full picture of his actions. I can honestly say, it's very hard to get through an uneducated manic bipolar. I wish u luck.
How old is he? Some Youth hostels have available beds. Once they are in the system he will get all the help and support he needs. It's a shame that for this to happen they have to be handed over to the system. I had to do the same with my own son just to get him the urgent suppprt he needed.
3 years on, he's a changed person and so am i. We both needed this.