Hi. Long story short. Hubby n I were together 10 years. 2 young kids. He was narcissistic and mean so I left about 14 months ago back to my family in another town. He followed a few months later. Swore he’d changed (without doing any actual counselling or reap self improvement) I stayed in his life. Doing things with him n kids. I felt sad n sorry for him. He did seem to have changed a bit. He asked me/us to move back in. Reluctantly I did. Again because I hated to see him sad. Stayed a few months n could see some things were going back to the old way. I felt stuck n unhappy the whole time but did it for him n so I could give it a good try n know I did my best. If that makes sense.
Anyway. I left about 6 weeks ago and have since started to talk to someone else and hang out with him. Do u think it’s too soon? We have so much in common. He lives two hours away so it’s not like it would be anything full on thanks
Too soon???
Too soon???
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Too soon.
I’m sure it’s a fun distraction but you need to be working on You and the Kids right now. You are incredibly vulnerable right now to ending up in an abusive relationship because you haven’t taken the time to heal and educate yourself so you don’t miss warning signs again.
Plus your kids need some stability right now.
Way too soon! You need time to heal and move on from that relationship. The last thing you need is a new partner messing with your mind and distracting you from what’s important! Which is your kids and your own self worth and processing what’s happened
When you're with someone like your husband, you check out of the relationship in every way long before you actually leave.
If you're happy and don't think it's too soon that's all that matters.
I wouldn't be introducing him to the children any time soon.
But if you're happy then go for it!
Are you the same lady who broke up with the new guy to go back to your husband?
I really think you need to focus on your kids, you don’t seem to deal with being single very well, but at some point you NEED to.
You also don’t want to hurt another person, when you realise it was just a distraction/rebound.
Don’t complicate things again with another third party.