Hi sisters
So my 8 year old desperately wants to get one ear pierced and has done for a few years now. He has saved up enough money to pay for it himself and is pretty excited. However my husband is 100% against it. He is so old fashioned and had the typical boys are boys and earrings are for girls kind of upbringing.
Im trying to talk to him and explain that if its something our son really wants and will make him happy then whats the problem? Our boy is such a sweet kind loving little guy and too me its just a way of trying to find his own style.
Any help to try explain to my husband that's its ok if he doesn't like the idea of it but just to support our boy
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Guys were getting there ears pierced in the 1980s!
Point out something that your husband does/wears etc that would have been considered wrong somewhere back in time.
Honestly I don't think you'll change his views on this.
When I was growing up in the 90s, almost every boy had their ear pierced, the extra cool boys had 2 in one ear! Of course it had to be a particular ear other wise it signified "gayness" which pretty much sums up the level of enlightenment (or lack there of) we had back then...
Maybe that's something that's even shaped your husband's view on the matter.
I'd maybe remind him that imposing his own personal views and his outdated and insulting gender stereotypes on his son is likely to cause more damage than an earring ever would.
My son was 2 years old when i got him one ear pierced...he's 27 yrs old now and still has it. It was normal in the early 90's when he was little.
A no always holds more weight than a yes though , so maybe arrange with your husband to look at it again on your sons 9th birthday ? If its still no, and your son is still keen , just keep checking in with dad every 6 months or so. Just play it by ear. Pardon the pun ..
Simple, its not his ear, he has no say!
Take him and get it done
His ear, his choice. I love piercings my kids can have any they want. Hubby thinks waste of time but our son has nose done. When I was at school(30years ago) my male private school teachers had theirs done(out for work nose/ears/eyebrow) so hardly new.
He is a child and does not need to have this done. Your job isn’t to bow to every whim of a child. If your husband is against it it’s a NO. In the future you may be against something and together if one says NO it’s a NO.
My husband was the same and made our kids wait until 16 at least. One changed her mind and is in her mid 20’s with none. Children of that age are fickle and need to be guided and understand delayed gratification.