Can marriage to a narcissist ever work out
70% of the time my husband is your text book perfect husband ( kind generous caring hard working loving )
30% a complete narcissist ( blames me when things go wrong - when he is wrong twists and deflects the issue . Can never see his faults and intimidates me with loud voice and can see no wrong in his actions )
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I guess that 30 % is anytime things go wrong. When you really need your close people in your corner to build you up, reassure you, remind you youre loved, lovable and worthy. Dont underestimate the effects of having the devil in your face and in your ears at those times. 30% is a lot of abuse.
I think it’s impossible. Personally I’d find it completely soul destroying. No one is perfect and if we can’t reflect and see fault in ourselves how do we grow. Over time the resentment will build and explode.. it’s like bashing your head on a brick wall
Is he a diagnosed narcissist? Or immature and lacking insight? Biiiig difference in terms of how things might work out
Look up the red table talk (jada Pinkett smith) about narcissists. It’s very interesting. The psych on there explains that narcissists can never not be a narcissist. Once your one, you will always be one, it can’t be “cured”. He will never change. So don’t wait around for it to happen because it never will.