I feel like I'm alone, I have hubby beside me every day, however, I don't have any close female friends.
I know with COVID and the world has changed now, but I'm feeling more alone. I just want to have someone apart from my sister that has my back. That I can tell them anything and not worry about being back-stabbed, it sounds stupid, but this has happened to many times now. And you may say well maybe you need to change, and honestly, I think that every moment of the day, but then that's not me.. I'm trying to be someone i'm not if I need to change right? That's how I think about it.
I struggle daily but push through, I want friendship so bad, but seem to attract those who seem to be "using" me to get themselves what they want.
Any suggestions to "find" a friend? Southside Brisbane
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I feel the same way but different circumstances. I feel for you.
But I'm not in Brisbane.
just know you arent alone. Im in the same situation, i seem to always attract people who want to use me or control me so i stay away from people now and dont get close to anyone. It can be incredibly lonely at times but can also be great.
If you feel you do need to meet other women than i would suggest joining some groups, exercise groups seem to be very close groups of women? Or something like yoga, or playgroups etc if you have small kids. Maybe also read up on toxic people (narcissists etc) and 'energy vampires' so you will know how to spot them and stay away! Good luck
Not the original poster but I got labeled as toxic to excuse my former friends bad behaviour.
She was a narcissist.
Original Poster here - Here i was thinking it was just me, I have over the last 10 years been miserable all the time.
I am struggling with it being great at the moment, I want to be that way, i really do - I need to try and change my mindset maybe.
I will read up on toxic people, to try and help me. Thank you!
I find the opposite. I have lots of friends, theyre great and long lasting, catch up every few weeks, but noone to call all the time as theyre all happy with their husband. Doing family things.
I do think we're all feeling more alone from covid. The advice for making friends is to keep on putting yourself out there.
Thank you! I will try :)
I'm having the same trouble except I'm single so not even a husband to rely on :( I'm beyond depressed
I feel like I’m the one putting myself out there all the time and making the effort and no one seems to reciprocate . It takes work to be a good friend and it’s disheartening when you don’t get the same in return . I’m not sure what the answer is but don’t give up. I think it’s about finding different ways to meet people in your community . Maybe join a gym or start yoga? I was hoping to meet people through my sons schooling but I work full time so I seem to have missed that boat. Just know you aren’t alone xx
I have felt like this my whole life! Friendships are hard to keep no matter how hard you try or what you sacrifice. I had one friend through thick and thin for 7 years and even that ended last year. I know 100% what happened was NOT my fault. I just don't know if there is any decent people out there anymore.
#alonetoo
Letting you know, your not alone. I could have written this.
I wish I had a sister, I have my partner and our 3 children..who keep me busy.
I did move away from my home town 10years ago and have only ever made work friends but don’t socialise outside of work.
I’m in FNQ but originally from Southside Brisbane.
I’m in Brisbane southside. 🙋🏻♀️ If you’re interested in making a fb friend at first let me know. I’m 32 work FT with a partner and kid. X
Has been my whole life , I am told I am way to nice of a person but cant seem to keep real friends so guess it must be me. Friend either try sleep with my husband or ditch me when I have no idea why. I have major anxiety now meeting new ppl and rather be lonely for the rest of my life. I just spent a weekend with who I thought were friends then they all went out i was not invited so I guess i rather have no friends then these fake ones.
Edit : I dont have a sister so cherish that.
I feel the same way. I moved too many times due to hubby’s work and had to restart. Then had more kids which kept me from socializing with my new friends. So I’m not close to anyone. Not even my extended family - parents, siblings etc. Northern GC. Not quite south bris.
And I have one friend I can say anything to. But she lives 10 hours away. My ‘close’ supposed besties either ignore me because what I say isn’t interesting or they judge what I say. It makes me second guess everything and in the end decide not to reach out.
I feel you. I’m so alone and so depressed. These last few months have been hell for me. My husband is my only friend.
A Facebook friend posted a message about suicide awareness and that her door is always open for anyone who feels alone and needs to talk.. I messaged her and asked if she was free to catch up.. no reply 😔
Free to chat if you need. PM me. 😘
Free to chat if you need. PM me. 😘
I could have written this myself infact i was jumping on here just now to write almost the exact same thing
Only rn for me hubby is making me feel just as lonely he's all about his pc and phone and im just like seriously I don't even wanna count the amount of times I've practically begged him for some attention this week, his defence will be ive watched a movie with you last night but what he doesn't realise is yes his movie that he wanted to watch and if we game together it's always his games
And im sitting here today after outright telling him I need more from him and that his hurting me from him to ask me to repeat what I said and when I do nothing no sorry, no look into my eyes just back to his video on his phone and his computer leaning me in our bedroom bawling my eyes out with noone to call or nowhere to go to even vent,
Wish we were closer but im in perth
Edit about hubby: this isn't even normally him, normally were so fricken happy and fine but just this last week I feel like he's just not here
Original poster here: Oh, I feel you!
I get what your feeling, I still struggle daily, but have to push though.