Sibling contact

Anon Imperfect Mum

Sibling contact

I need advice on maintaining sibling contact in broken homes.
My 2 kids live with me, and have half siblings with their other parent. Th kids living with me involved the state, so th other parent has strict contact restrictions. This parent tried for full custody resently, and it seems that now, they will be getting less contact then befor, with tougher restrictions. My concurn is, although this parent and their partner are toxic, I don't want my kids to miss out on time with their siblings. To me that contact is the most important thing here. What should I, as a parent, be requesting from the courts in terms of sibling contact. The state will be supervising the other parent until the children age out (18yo) I can't supervise as it becomes confrontational and stressful on the children. Should I ask for the children to be in my home for a day fortnightly? I have no legal representation as I can't afford it, and don't qualify for legal aid.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

No. That’s inviting trouble and contact with the other bio parent, which you need to avoid at all costs. The fact he is looking at getting less time than before tells me this is an extremely serious situation.

I’d request the kids have contact through a supervised contact centre. Anything more would be too much of a risk. It is up to the bio parent of all the children to share his time so that all the kids see each other.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Why would any mother willingly hand their children over to their partners ex because that’s what the ex wants?

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Stay as faraway from these people as you can.
As adults they can reconnect.
Safety first, always.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Your children have each other. Do not put them in a situation where they will bear witness to toxic behaviour!

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Every one assumes it's th mother who has the kids, but it's not the case, the children are in their fathers care. Remember people, it's not always th father who is toxic

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Anon Imperfect Mum

If you cant have contact then having their kids in your home without them is impossible and just asking for issues. I dont see how it would happen, just perhaps say youre open to extra supervised time if it involves the siblings.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Unfortunately it’s best to move on
Court doesn’t consider half siblings or step siblings in these situations so they are unlikely to give you consent orders
It’s unfortunate but not a lot you can do
Upon separation this happens to a lot of families and children
If your ex HAD full contact with your children it would’ve been up to him on his time to have had the kids together

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Anon Imperfect Mum

(Or vice versa) for if the children are in the fathers care
It’s up to the parent during their time to have the half siblings together and maintain a relationship
Court won’t order it for you

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