Hi ladies,
I am needing some advice on how to deal with my husband wanting another baby and i don’t.
A little bit of a back story, we already have two children, the youngest is to start school next year. I was looking forward to starting to get my life back with the kids getting a bit older. The problem is my husband wants to have another. It has gotten to the point that his not even taking to me after I told him again that I don’t want anymore kids. We are so close to not having to pay for day care anymore and just getting back to normal sleep routines. I just don’t want to go back to the start again,
But I feel for my husband.. not sure what to do?
Not wanting another baby
Not wanting another baby
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Him not talking to you is not okay! It’s manipulative and stinks.
It’s ok for him to be upset but it’s not okay to behave this way because he didn’t get his way.
Who would actually be looking after the baby and getting up nights for it?
I’d suggest marriage counselling, if he won’t go, you probably already have a 3rd baby (him)!
A no always trumps in my opinion... the only way I would budge is if I was able to financially bring in enough to support the family and he was going to be stay at home dad for the early years. Barring that you both need to communicate effectively about it without being given the silent treatment.
If you definitely don't want ones that's that. I'd say it's time to decide if you're really at the end, or if you can offer him anything in the way of future talks, and then let him know where you stand. Just make sure you let him know that you've heard him, and you've really truly considered any and all ways to do this for him.
Would you both be interested in adopting or fostering an older child? This way you don’t have to go through the pregnancy and baby stage again, but are still adding to your family.