So hubby has been going out running in the morning, with a woman he knows from years back, all fine. Recently has been meeting up in the afternoon too for dog walks. On a few occasions that I’ve gone to walk the dog he has offered to take the dog instead, then bumps into her. I don’t bump into her when I am out. He has since done things for her, gone to her house to fix her bike, printed off stuff for her work. On Friday he finished work (works at home due to lockdown) saying he needed to get out and clear his head so was taking the dog out even though I had already walked him. I followed him 10 minutes later to see he was with her in the park, they were talking to another couple of dog walkers. I left and went home again as our 3 kids were at home. I told him I had seen them and that I was upset. He has just been overly nice since. Is this incident on its own a cause for concern??
But also, his history. This is all since having kids. Some years ago he tried kissing his boss, few years ago was spending a lot of time with another woman going to gym etc and was awful to me during that time. 3 years ago told me he had feelings for one of my friends and said he wasn’t sure if he wanted me anymore, then decided he did want me a few months later. He moved out at that time but was back a day later. What is going on? Should I just leave him?
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Trust your gut lovely, it’s rarely wrong.
I’m so sorry but this is going to come across harsh, I don’t mean it to and please know that I’m trying to say this with kindness not malice.
He has shown you time and time again that you are his second choice and that he will stray or at least attempt to if he is given half a chance. He has proven on more that one occasion that doesn’t have his heart in your relationship and that he doesn’t give a flying F if he hurts you. Do yourself a favour and kick the dickhead out before you end up heart broken or with an std. people like this don’t ever change, he has proven that.
Thankyou I appreciate your honesty xx
It doesn’t sound good, especially with his history of trying to pick up other women. Don’t wait for him to decide if he wants to be with you, take the reins and decide your worth so much more than second best.
Your husband has a real issue with healthy boundaries?
Sorry but he had learnt nothing from his past . If you stay in this relationship you will always have this problem.
You’ve stayed too long.
Sounds like he’s having an affair and is a serial womaniser.
I'd be leaving. Trust yourself. If you feel something is happening then it probably is.
Ohhhh definitely leave. Obviously something is going on with them. Start saying you’ll go with him. He would already be sleeping with her prob. Question him by himself and ask him the truth and go through his msgs etc if he denies it. I wouldn’t trust him at all.
Honestly.. I think you already know what you need to do and deep down know what is happening. I think you are looking for reassurance in leaving. Go with your gut and leave, you will be much happier. Sounds like he is having an affair and if it’s not with her it will be someone else, he has proven it. Sounds like he has no respect for you, your kids and your relationship. Get out now and be happy by yourself without this going on behind your back. Listen to you gut. Follow your gut and never excuse the gut feeling, it doesn’t lie. Good luck.
I would. That's ridiculous behavior. I swore my hubby was doing this at gym. I wasnt about to join as I preferred nature. If i found out he was, his ass would be done .
Does she know about you?