I never have this problem with my boys, but my girls friendships are so bitchy, and what makes this one situation hard, is this girl, is the daughter of one of my best mates. The girls were once close, but grew apart due to difference in interests. My daughter pulled away as She's not into boys, sports and dressing up, shes a book warm, and into her own things. but now it's like, other friends are being forced to pick between them. My daughter is in tears as a friend was meant to stay on th weekend and has now canceled as she was made to pick sides and is now at my mates place instead. I try to stay out of th kids Pickering, but when is it time to step in.
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How old is she?
If she's pulled away from a group then she'll realise usually you won't take them with you, that's part of the decision in a group dynamic and it wouldn't be nice to do either. So if shes had enough then I would encourage her to move on and find her place and know that her friendships with the others will fall into place wherever that is, in time.
You don't say hold old she is, my miss 11 has just been through this, and the honest there is little you can do about it and the faster she learns to read these situations the better she will navigate them. I told my daughter after tears , teachers and parent involvement that she has a choice, she either tolerated this type of behaviour and has to deal with the rubbish way these "friends" treat her, or realise she doesn't have to and hang out with kids who are real friends, doesn't need to be a dramatic break up but just keep your distance. unfortunately these friends mums who i would have called friends, have now disappeared too. you might be lucky and you mate be okay with it but don't force the girls to hang out. Girls are bitches and i am terrified for high school.