So long story. Hubby n I were together 10 years. 2 kids. Things got bad. He was narcasstic. I left n moved back to be near my family. He was angry n mean for a bit. Then moved to where we live. He wanted to try n work things out. I said we’d need to do counselling and he’d need to do solo counselling. He agreed. We started. I noticed changes. He wanted us to move back in I wasn’t ready but did. He still hasn’t done solo counselling. I still see he is trying though. Saying that I don’t know if I’m still ‘in love’ with him anymore. I love him n care for him deeply and I know if I left he’d be devasted and would almost kill him. N I don’t want that. But I just don’t know if I’m in love. The sex life is almost non existent he rarely asks for it n when we do do it it’s not exciting at all. Like going through the motions.
I’ve started looking at other men. I’d never cheat but I just feel like I’m missing the sexual connection. I know it’s not everything but I just don’t feel like that towards him. N it sucks cos he is very attractive.
What’s wrong with me?!
What’s wrong with me
What’s wrong with me
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You are just done with this relationship. You got back together for the wrong reasons. You got back together because you felt guilty for not giving him another chance.
So what if he is physically attractive? That doesn’t make him a good person, who treats you right and you have an emotional and physical connection with.
Time to call it a day.
If he tells you he would die/it would kill him if you left, that’s just him being Abusive and controlling. Thats him telling you he thinks he has the right to own you. It’s not a sign of love.
I’d be getting myself a counsellor so I can see his behaviour for what it is.
You're not into the relationship. They can be broken when people are awful enough. Sounds like he broke it. You shouldn't have moved in. Now you need to decide how long will you work on it, and what will you settle for, and how hard will you work. Make sure it's completely done before you move on.
There’s nothing wrong with you, you just sound over him and the relationship. It happens, especially if your partner has been mean and hasn’t gone to counselling like he said he would. Next time you leave, follow through, don’t go back.
Maybe going back was a good thing because this time when you leave, you are certain it is the right thing to do. You won’t ever wonder or have “what if” moments because you know you are truly done.
Love is a choice sometimes. Sometimes I don’t like my partner very much and if I’d posted on here everyone would say leave.
Love changes, being in love sometimes becomes deep caring love over many years and grass is greener where you water it.