Hi i am wanting some advice on how to spice up our sex life. Lately its all just really mechanical and not happening all that often. Ive mentioned that for me i need some passion amd romance and cant always just go for it if he says "want to have sex". So thats on his begalf. But from my end after some tips of what i can do. I will be honest im not very diverse or confident when it comes to sex (due to a past experience). I love him qith all my heart but this one thing is lacking a little.
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Flirty text messages throughout the day. Random touches when you pass by him around the house. Hold hands when you’re out together. Snuggle together on the lounge for movie night once the kids are in bed. Start with the little things that will hopefully build your interest throughout the day, so that even if he is completely unromantic and comes out with “wanna have sex” you’ll be interested in having sex. With you doing little romantic things for him, hopefully it’ll get him thinking about romantic things he can do for you. To spice things up a bit, you can get a set of dice from an adult store. Two dice in the set, one has actions on it and the other has body parts. You then do the action to the body part rolled on your partner.
I think exploring sexuality starts with you. I would read Wild Feminine and follow Jacqueline Hellyer of the Lovelife Clinic. She has a podcast, newsletters and Facebook. She does women’s and men’s online courses and a couples retreat. Worth looking into. Or just hiring her as a sexologist! Xx