So hurt right now, last night me and my partner had a huge argument, today is our sons birthday so I have been civil and putting on a happy face all day for my babies Birthday. His other kids were sitting here eating dinner I thought I'll quickly run and get milk from the shop on the corner about 2 min drive I was literally gone no more then 10 mins and in that time he did the cake and served. I'm so upset. How nasty could you be? Actually pretty devastated.
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He could of waited. That was a dick move
Is this first birthday?
Just think back, did he argue at Christmas too? Easter? Mothers day?
It's a pattern it took me too long to work out, but they wreck everything. It's on purpose. The argument last night would've been orchestrated too.
Agree. You are so right. If this is his pattern you won’t be able to enjoy a special occasion for what it is. Sad that someone has to be so negative and hateful but he shouldn’t have excluded you from this. Not okay.
Take your bub out tomorrow for a big fancy cupcake or donut and put a candle and an age candle in it and make sure you get a photo of you 2together.
Very low move on his part!
I’d be closely examining this relationship. People don’t tend to do these nasty things in isolation.
That is nasty, childish and petty. I think it’s time to be reflective..
That's pretty nasty, vindictive and hurtful.
I hope you're ok because that definitely is not ok.
Omg that’s disgustiing what a pig!! He did this on purpose.!!! What a dog
I would be very upset over this. If this is a pattern and something that happens regularly, making vicious decisions to get back at you and teach you a lesson, I would consider leaving.
If it’s a once off, I don’t know, I don’t know if talking to him would make him understand. If possible pack a bag, go visit some relatives. Let him know that you are really hurt by his actions and you need some time apart to see where your heads at. What a horrible thing to do
Dick move , as for comments on public post, the excuse of man moment is an excuse created to take responsibility of crappy men who don't want to contribute.
There is no way you would accidentally cut a cake without you being there.
Edit to add.
I have since left this relationship after years of emotional abuse , this was just one of many things but by far one of the lowest things in my book. He did this intentionally. He told me to go to the shop while the kids ate their dinner and we would do it when I got back he knew full well I'd literally he a few minutes. My child only turns that age once and I would of liked to seen him blow out his candles and sing happy birthday to him , yes he didn't murder anyone and I for one know there are bigger issues in the world. But I was very hurt by his actions taking that special moment away from me. The night before this he spent the night yelling at me calling me an ugly far c##t locking me out of the house and I had to sleep in the car , all because he was drunk and was on his abusive rampage which he does when he is drunk. I've also been the same person that has posted many times about my step daughters behaviour and him not having her seen to and also receiving abuse from his children daily. I finally got up the courage to leave just a few days ago and now I'm in a situation copping abuse from my father. So that is more of a back to story to my situation.
Oh WOW, I’m so glad you left. Your father is obviously the person who desensitised you to put up with this kind of nonsense.
I wish you well getting back on your feet and finding some peace.
Well done Mumma!
I would be absolutely devastated.
I’m glad you made the move. Please be kind to yourself, please don’t cave into him. Be strong and stand your ground.
His vocabulary says enough to me as to what sort of person he is.
Try not to retaliate for the sake of your child.
Kill him with kindness. Hurt more to people like that.
Big hugs..