My husband used to be in the army before we met, took a break and now wants to go back. I want him to pursue this as he talks about it and I don’t think he’ll be happy in a job until he can be in the army again.
This means we’ll have to move away, most likely over a couple states. We don’t have kids, just pets which makes it easy. I am happy to go with him, but I wanted to ask those who have been in this situation, how did you feel moving away from everything, especially being settled and central in your community?
How did you go starting over in a new place and what did you do to look after yourself mentally and emotionally?
The only reason he hasn’t fully committed to this idea is because he’s worried about me and wants to make sure I’m happy. I’m happy if he’s happy and I know this will be tough but I’m prepared to make the move. Thank you for your advice.
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I’ve moved a lot.
The best way to make a move easy is to get involved in some kind of hobby/sport/community activity as soon as you arrive. It’s the best way to create a social life in your new location and also plan lots of trips home to maintain contact with your family and friends at home.
See it as an adventure. There is so much to see in the world. Grab it as an exciting opportunity. New things to learn, see, do. New favourite restaurants and coffee shops to find. Be independent. Especially without kids. I would advise to move home before having kids though. A support network is important and it sounds like you have a good one there.
My husband is defence and it has its ups and downs but overall I love it!
There’s lots of defence pages who organise catch’s up etc. Make sure you post on these pages to organise catch’s up, so you’re not lonely and can have the opportunity to go out and make friends.
it’s shit moving at first, but once you settle and get into a routine it’s great.
The positives outweigh the bad.. i think it’s great I get to explore the country we live in!
My hubby isn’t away much, but it’ll all depends on what job your partner does.