On the weekend my 13 year old son was with a few of his mates jumping on this community trampoline . Then 3 other boys from his year turned up as they were leaving . Later that afternoon one of those boys messaged my son to let him know he left his jumper there so my husband drove him there straight away as it’s a rep jumper from sport that he received so it’s very special . He turned up and carried it back to the car and it was saturated in wee . My husband made my son go and ask if they had weeded on it or knew who did and they all denied it . Next day at school a few boys were laughing and talking about it . Long story short we messaged the boy we thought may tell the truth and he still denied it until my son said it’s all good my parents are going to look at the survalence cameras and this boy messaged the boy who did it and he messaged my son and owned up to doing it and said sorry . The police said they can talk to this boy or we can talk to the Mum ? This boy doesn’t have the best home life but I think he needs to be accountable and I want to teach my son to not let anybody do that and get away with it . The police thought it was quiet disgusting so do we . What would you do if this was your child and their jumper ? Also this boys older brother is worse very scary and my sons worried if we say anything he will get him at school . My husband wants $50 for the jumper ? My son has done nothing to this boy this boy is naughty at school and a thug basically.
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I would let the boy apologise to your son and let your son accept it. And I would give it about 2 weeks to make sure that they understand your sons done him a solid, and they might be good. If he tries to treat him like a bitch that copped it then I would call police without hesitation.
I personally would let it go. At least for now so hopefully it all just dies down.
I grew up with kids like this. You learned very quickly not to leave anything you valued behind because people would mess with it. Your son has just learned that the hard way.
Secondly, the intent behind this act was to rattle your son and to humiliate or disrespect him. So the more you push for apologies, admittance and accountability (that frankly never happens with these types of kids) - the funnier this whole thing gets for the boys involved and the longer this drags out for your son.
So what's more important here?
Your son's safety and overall well-being at school or $50 and the principle of the matter?
Let it go. Really it’s a jumper and not worth the hassle. I’m sure your son will take better care of his clothes in future. Don’t leave your stuff around there are arseholes everywhere.
Asking for the money will come across as petty and have him teased more. Just wash it. The boy said sorry. I'd be inclined to have your son voice his own friendship expectations. Have him explain that you and his father are furious and that he has pushed back but that he needs to know nothing like this will happen again. Then maybe have him find a way to break the tension. Honestly, finding a way to move on is going to be the only way your son isn't the one that loses.
Really hard! If one of my friends pissed on my jumper after I had just been having a good time with them I would be mortified, how horrible that would make me feel. It's not just the jumper, pissing on something means you find it worthless with no respect to the owner of it, it was obviously done to get a laugh out of watching him wear it in the future. Dirty little shit. I honestly think you should let the police have a talk to him, might be a wake up call to his behaviour. And if the brother starts any trouble get a restraining order, don't be pushed around by them. Your son needs new friends anyway.
I would be urging my son to find better friends.
Who the heck pisses on someone’s clothing? He did it to show his dominance, just like an animal does, and will laugh at your son next time he wears that jacket, because it’s been pissed on.
It wasn’t his friend just a boy in his year but yes I agree !
Exactly. He will never be able to wear it again without them not letting him live it down. Horrible animalistic behaviour .
Agree with the animal dominance thing. Perhaps you can let him know yourself that you're furious that you had to buy a new jacket and throw away a jacket because there's no way son is wearing a jacket this kid has pissed on. And look, I probably would encourage my kid to chuck it out as well. It's good for his esteem. But don't bother to ask for money, leave them in the dirt where they belong.
Let it go. It's disgusting and horrible but asking for 50$ from a thuggish family wouldn't ever help and you won't get paid.
Throw the jacket out, hygiene wise, I'd get rid of it.
If the police do speak to the boy, will they turn up to his house or ask his mum to present him to the station?
You've got a rough apology but how far do you want this to go?
Your son is 13. Ask him what he wants to happen. Having the police speak to the feral might not do your son any favours at school. You also can’t force him to pay for the jumper and the police can’t enforce that either. I remember what high school was like at this age. I would let it go.