It has just been confirmed that the chance of me every getting pregnant is slim to none. I’m devastated. The thing that terrifies me the most is my husband, I’m so afraid he’ll leave, he wanted/wants a child so badly.
We have been together 6 years and he is the one who was always keen on children, I didn’t mind either way. I’m so afraid he’ll start to have doubts about our marriage and future because of this.
I’m not sure if adoption is a path which we will go down, my husband has always been apprehensive about this.
Please can people give me reassurance this won’t happen.
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The other option is surrogacy if you can find a volunteer.
Be honest with your husband, you could try and make the most of that slim to none chance and give it a go if you haven't already. Then look at your other options, fostering, adopting or surrogacy. Or just accept a child free life and make the most of it. Except for surrogacy, I know at least one person from each choice and they are really happy people. A foster family I know has adopted 12 of their foster kids over 30 years. It doesn't need to be the end of the world for you or your husband, this could be the start of an amazing journey x
The thing that helps me is to remember that whatever happens, will work out for the best for you. If he leaves you, then you will be better off and will find someone you're truly happy with and it will be so much better than a life with someone who can't forgive something out of your control.
All you can do is handle things as they come up and do your best. Keep your integrity and values and you'll get through anything.
Infertility is a huge test for a relationship, but if your relationship is strong enough and worth it you’ll get through it.
I always wanted a big family and we tried for years, until we found out my husband was unable to have children. I never seriously considered leaving him because of that, it could have been either one of us.
We went through donor/IVF and had a child and I couldn’t ask for a more perfect family, we are also in the process of becoming foster parents too. Sometimes things don’t work out how you plan them because there is a better plan. I hope you get through this together, and allow each other to grieve without guilt.