Hi gals.
I am nervous even just writing this, and have scrolled down at least 3 times to check the anonymity box has been ticked. She can’t find out this is me!
There’s this mum at school. She’s stunning, she sings like an angel... She’s also terrifying.
If you’re ‘in;’ don’t ever have an opinion that differs from hers, or you’re outed. Her inner narcissist is strong, no room for constructive criticism unless it’s hers directed at others.
So here’s what happened. Just before Anzac Day, her 7 year old daughter supposedly wrote a song regarding the Gallipoli Campaign. Her mother and father have their own band, so they performed and posted it on Facebook. Great tune, beautifully performed. Just a complete mess historically. Anyone with any clue about history, could tell you this. But who has the balls to tell Regina?! Certainly nobody on her ‘friend’ list. Of course all her friends and family praised the hell out of it; their historical knowledge is obviously a little sketchy too. It was viewed 60,000 times; but didn’t amass more than 1000 likes. Wouldn’t that tell you something?!
A friend asked an ‘outside’ friend to contact Regina to broach the subject. Somebody that couldn’t be traced back to any of us. The friend was super friendly and polite, but met the fury of Regina, who then blocked her.
It was shared to the Defence Force page, and that was enough to make Regina ‘right.’
Meanwhile, we’re all tiptoeing about hoping the song will be corrected. The truth is, it has been seen as offensive to those of Turkish heritage; and besides the mention of ‘April 25th’ and ‘8 months,’ is all wrong.
Then someone dared post something on the Defence Force page calling out the inaccuracies of the song. Well. Regina wrote up a big sob story and pretty much asked all her friends to go and attack this person. Of course we all went and checked it out. This poor person was crucified. Their comments were removed, but probably because of all the abusive posts from Regina’s army of skanks. This only justified Regina’s stance of being right even more, and a triumphant post followed regarding the ‘nasty people’ being wrong followed. She also ranted about her 7 year old being called names, when the comments weren’t directed at a child at all. Even if her kid had written it, which many of us doubt, she was helped by Regina to do so. Apparently Regina is allowed to rewrite history because she can sing prettily.
I just need to vent. It’s so ridiculous.
You might think the song might just be forgotten about, but Regina owns a recording studio, and after being called out; she’ll probably be more determined to push it further. I fear we haven’t heard the end of it.
It’s. So. Painful.
When people ask “did you hear Regina’s song?” I have to plant a big smile on my face as I don’t know if they’re going to follow up with a positive or negative response.
It is totally ‘Mean Girls’ for adults.
So if you’ve gotten this far, thank you. I had to get it off my chest as it’s really grinding my gears!
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I think you need to look at your own side of this. You could totally take a huge step back. Block her and ignore her. Don't even look at her song. Or comment if you're offended and let her block you. End of. Move on. People do things we hate all the time we don't have to be friends with them, especially school mums. You don't have to know any of them.
You clearly don’t have any experience with a narcissist.
Oh no? Oe maybe Ive had enough to know that if I can get rid of them from inside my house, a freaking school mum can't phase me. She's not in your personal life, she's not in your friend group, she's not in your family. You literally don't have to see her, ever. And i mean that. When you walk past her, when youre at an event, when you drive past, when she posts on facebook, dont see her. You're choosing to see her and know her and know what she's up to, and for your own benefit you need to stop.
Just to clarify, as the OP, I didn’t write the comment you’re replying to ☺️
I just needed to vent; I am one of the ‘older mums’ and just haven’t experienced such entitlement before. I am more astonished that rather than correct the historical errors; with or without an apology for those she’s offended, she’s managed to turn it into a personal attack on herself and her child.
I guess it’s my first taste of the ‘participation award kids’ take on parenting. It’s not a grey area; it’s 100 year old history. And it can’t be rewritten. But that’s what has happened, and God forbid anyone question this.
Once the song gets out wider there will be people that will state facts, and that won't give a shit what she looks like, or sounds like, or the posse of lemmings on her tail. Being disrespectful is disrespect regardless of being deliberate or just stupid ignorance and arrogance.
Set an example for your kids where this isn't acceptable.
Well that’s it, respect should be a two way street.
Unfortunately, instead of feeling remorse; Regina went on the attack. They were jealous, picking on her child, haters and wrong.
The two people who spoke up (according to Regina) must’ve known each other. There’s no way (according to Regina) that 2 individuals with a basic knowledge of history,
dare question her wonderful song.
They must know each other.
The irony is, they didn’t know each other! The woman who commented on the DF post was asking a question of the DF. Regina must’ve been monitoring every shared post; because in a flash all her minions were attacking this lady. Vital bits were left out of her heartbreaking post, like how she antagonised the woman first. The poor woman didn’t know what had hit her, as Regina didn’t actually reply; rather she left it to the people she had invited to attack after her bleeding heart post.
Just sneaky. And irritating. Don’t upset the millennial.
But all in all, I’m not alone in thinking Regina’s loving all the attention. With each post, she shared the video again 🥴
I really don't like Reginas at all, I wouldn't want to be her friend. If its that important to stay in her good books and this really annoys you that much you could comment, "That is really great of your daughter, she's only 7 so it's amazing she wrote a whole song. She has made a few mistakes though, *correct mistakes* normally I wouldn't correct a child's artistic work but since Anzac Day is a sensitive subject for many people I thought I would put it out there. Wow, she really does have a strong future ahead of her." Narcissists nightmare, you've praised her at the same time as chopping her down so she may not know how to react. If you just chop a narcissist without praise they come for blood. I'm always amazed how many people follow these types like sheep, Constance Hall is another good example.
That was the first approach.
Find someone neutral to gently suggest a few changes. Explain the issue, point out whom it was offensive to, what parts were ridiculous, whilst still stroking her ego.
Didn’t work. Regina took offence immediately and was straight on the defence. How dare anyone question her knowledge of history and what she was teaching her child?! Rather than listen and learn; she took it personally. It gave her a ‘they’re trying to tell us how to parent’ edge. Cue the ‘you’re wonderful’ comments.
Narcissists, aye?
That was the first approach.
Find someone neutral to gently suggest a few changes. Explain the issue, point out whom it was offensive to, what parts were ridiculous, whilst still stroking her ego.
Didn’t work. Regina took offence immediately and was straight on the defence. How dare anyone question her knowledge of history and what she was teaching her child?! Rather than listen and learn; she took it personally. It gave her a ‘they’re trying to tell us how to parent’ edge. Cue the ‘you’re wonderful’ comments.
Narcissists, aye?
She might be the Regina but that kinda makes you the Gretchen. Ie, no damn better...
I'm sorry but this is all so immature and it's also quite specific so good luck with your anonymity.
I guess it could be any other school Mum, it doesn't really narrow it down to the poster.
Every kid was learning about Anzac Day a couple of weeks ago. Some better than others, obviously!
Someone’s a tad salty; did Regina just come forward?
Most kids have learnt about Anzac day at some point, sure.
I'm not so certain every kid wrote, sang and uploaded a song to the "defence force page" with a heap of historical inaccuracies. So as I said, very specific and look further down, someone's already tried to find the song...
I'm just not down with public call outs and that's exactly what this is!
Regardless of this "Regina's" behaviour or personality flaws, she doesn't deserve to be publicly shamed or humiliated.
This whole post reeks of a bullying culture that we're trying to eliminate from our kids generation. "Regina's" so called friends are all being extremely juvenile, they can't stand her but put up with all her shit because they clearly want to be part of her "in" crowd.
But hey, for trying to point that out I guess that makes me the salty "Regina" 🙄
The fact that you all placate her and suck up her arse but then talk about her behind her back makes you all equally as bad.
I'd rather have my integrity and have no 'friends' than be a part of such a disingenuous friendship group.
If anything you need to take the time for some self reflection.
You’re too emotionally invested in this situation, disengage.
I get it, I’m the same, sometimes you just have to pull back and laugh.
I find it hard to let go of evil people that have everyone fooled, but I’ve learnt, your emotional energy needs to be invested elsewhere, into the good people in your life.
It’s a good lesson to learn, took me many years lol
It probably won't get shared now Anzac Day is over, those kind of songs only make appearances around Anzac Day then disappear again
I think if it bothers you so much block her or say something. She’s only making herself look bad and that’s not your problem.
Ps has anyone else been trying to find the song?! 😬
Just block her and move on. If you see her at school, say a friendly hello. Who has time for this drama?
The way I see it, you have 3 choices.
1. Easy option - You continue to do nothing but fester about it and in doing so you continue to play your part in this literal "mean girls" culture that exists within your social circle.
2. Difficult option - You kindly approach your friend about her behaviour.
Now, assuming what you've mentioned about her is all entirely accurate and not a huge exaggeration - this isn't going to be a real solution.
3. The best option - You reassess your values and your moral code. You decide that you're better than all this petty nonsense and you choose to step away from it all. In doing so, you're holding yourself to a higher standard, you're setting a good example for your kids and it'll also teach you how to deal with future Regina's (and there will be more).
Ya, I think you just need to let this one go. She's the one that looks like the fuck wit. Just let her look like it and don't involve yourself. You don't have to have anything to do with her at all. It's completely your choice. If others want to suck up her arse, then let them.
Don't waste your energy and life worrying about someone who clearly doesn't give a rats arse about you.
I know exactly who you're talking about and can only imagine the horror of having to have her as part of your school community. Feel for you.
For anyone who wants to know who this post is about.
Go check out the
“Coopers Run” page.
They’ve got multiple songs going on. Her voice is lovely.
I must first say, I haven’t listened to the song, however my thoughts on your post are;
Gosh, it’s interesting that you mention ‘mean girls’ and that she’s made it personal. Yet you’re the person that has decided to make a very public statement by posting on social media with a viewership of thousands so that you can ‘vent’ anonymously.
Interesting that you’ve also chosen to continue to ‘plant a big smile on my face’, when you’re so upset by it. If you’re ok to post it on social media to thousands, you should also be ok to be honest with others, whilst also being respectful. It smacks of the keyboard warrior mentality and online bullying that we’re constantly trying to protect our children from...and of course ensure they don’t become one.
As adults, it’s ok not to agree with everyone. What is important however is that we either decide to respectfully address or make a decision to move past it. This post appears that you’re currently doing neither.
Looking at the online messages on the Defence Force page (and my guess is that it was a choice made by the Defence Force to share it) it looks like others were the ones that made it personal. The mama bear and, assuming, her friends, then went into protection mode to look after the 7 year old. To be honest, I’m not sure what I’d do in the same scenario but I do know I’ll protect my daughter from bullies until my last breath.
Just my thoughts, but either have an opinion and own it, or get over it and move on.
I must first say, I haven’t listened to the song, however my thoughts on your post are;
Gosh, it’s interesting that you mention ‘mean girls’ and that she’s made it personal. Yet you’re the person that has decided to make a very public statement by posting on social media with a viewership of thousands so that you can ‘vent’ anonymously.
Interesting that you’ve also chosen to continue to ‘plant a big smile on my face’, when you’re so upset by it. If you’re ok to post it on social media to thousands, you should also be ok to be honest with others, whilst also being respectful. It smacks of the keyboard warrior mentality and online bullying that we’re constantly trying to protect our children from...and of course ensure they don’t become one.
As adults, it’s ok not to agree with everyone. What is important however is that we either decide to respectfully address or make a decision to move past it. This post appears that you’re currently doing neither.
Looking at the online messages on the Defence Force page (and my guess is that it was a choice made by the Defence Force to share it) it looks like others were the ones that made it personal. The mama bear and, assuming, her friends, then went into protection mode to look after the 7 year old. To be honest, I’m not sure what I’d do in the same scenario but I do know I’ll protect my daughter from bullies until my last breath.
Just my thoughts, but either have an opinion and own it, or get over it and move on.