Emotional Affair. I had written in some time ago with the partner always at the clubs and buying drinks for other woman and i seen a message from a woman saying to give her a call. At the time i didnt know it was a woman i had someone check it out for me and i confronted him. He told me he had spoken to a lady at the club told them of our issues and they had since swapped calls with others in a group setting. He tells me nothing happened. We talked trying to understand why and i asked him how he thinks that made me feel not talking to me but a stranger. I have the number of the woman but i have been trying to let dead dogs lie however its eating me up i usually trust my gut and i feel there is more to it. Do you call her and ask her why she messages him knowing he is partnered with a few children? Do you raise it with him again. How do you get over it. I am prepared to leave the relationship if my gut is right and more happened like sexually but will i ever know?
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You don’t believe his answers and you don’t trust him. Once the trust is gone it’s pretty much done and dusted.
You can waste a lot of time looking for answers and not hearing the answers you need to hear. If you talk to this woman what makes you think she’d tell you the truth?
If you don’t think your partner is telling the truth you have your answer and that’s that you don’t trust him and that you think he is a liar.
What all this means is you are scared of making a mistake. At some point you just have to back yourself and move on. The relationship and your partners behaviour isn’t working for you. It’s ok to end things on that basis.
I think the fact he's talking about his marital issues with random women at the pub would be enough for me to walk. That's trying to show cracks so the person they are hitting on thinks it's ok, "oh he's married but it looks like it's pretty much over so I guess there's no harm done if I take it further".
She's calling him cos when he says he told her about his issues, what he told her was it's over because of xyz. It's complicated, shes mentally nuts so i have to play it cool, etc, while he picked her up. There's no excusing what he's done, I'm amazed you're hearing it but not really hearing it. I dont even see this as an emotional affair but as cheating. You don't need anything from her, you already have enough.
He’s a dog... a cheater!!!
He is lying to you wake up.. he is cheating on you. Sad but true! I know coz it happend to me. Same story. He was giving her tips at the bar she worked in and was a total slut stripper. She knew he was married. Didn’t care. they were going on for 1-2 years
You can’t trust those words. Even if he was talking about his marital issues they should be spoken with you not her. He is just letting her know things aren’t good and let’s hook up!!
I have been at the wrong end of two EA’s thanks to my former husband. The second (6 years after the first) turned physical and when I found out he was shown the door (actually I threw all his shit into the garage and considered setting it on fire).
You already know the answer.