Hi ladies/mum's of teen girls. God give us strength! Ok so my problem is my daughter 16 has been hanging with 2 young boys her age and another girlfriend, there a bit of a group. I know they smoke a bit of pot when they're together, I know 1 of the boys is madly in love with her and treats her like a queen, she is not interested at all and had told him numerous times and he's been very respectful and stood back and been her friend . Now that's not the issue, the problem is these boys although they're sweet and fun when there with the girls, they are rouges away from them. I know they have done some terrible things, been in fights, one of the boys did a run through of someone's house and went to court over it. They are making silly choices, but underneath seem like nice boys ...except, I met them for the first time officially last Friday. They came in to drop something off to my daughter and I got to speak to them outside at our patio table for about 10 mins, to me they came across as nice boys who's names have been slammed and people have given up on them. They left and I was happy to of met them. At about 1.15 that morning hubby woke me to tell me that his bank had flagged his card to see if the 3 different transactions that had been made at about 1am were his he said no and the fraud people rang to say they will put a block on his card. Now when we looked in to the transactions 2 were for Tommy hilfiger $217 for 2 transactions and another one for $158 that we couldn't work out. Of course his first thought were the boys that were here, I said no they were very respectful and seemed nice and I didn't even see your card sitting on the table . He was adamant he left it there but he had quite a bit to drink, a stressful day at work and was extremely tired. The one boy did sit where my hubby had been sitting, but I swear I did not see his card on the table ( I guess wasnt looking for it either) the boys left the house at midnight which gave them an hour to use the card. I've rang tommy hilfiger and they found the transaction on the card but it was sent to a different address in the samenpost code, so still in our area about 20 mins doen the road and under a different name. The other one we can't work out. Now I know I sound really naive and I know every bit of evidence leads towards these boys, but they are totally denying it to my girl saying that they would never do that and lots more. I just don't get why a boy who is madly in love with a girl would steal from her family. They swear they never would they do that I'm in a wheelchair I m fine mentally, they said they would never be so weak stealing from us for those reasons and that I was so lovely and not to mention the friendships they hold so dear. I just dont understand. Am I being ridiculous? I know it's so obvious, but sometimes it's not the most usual suspects. Hubby wants to report them to try and get them charged. The card is missing, but he can be really careless at times especially when he's been drinking, he losses things at the best of times, keys, wallet etc but they do always turn up, eventually. I'm praying the card turns up and it's more of an online scam. As I'm writing this I feel like I'm answering my own question. Do you think it was definitely them And am I being silly to think different? Or could it of been an on line scam. He also ordered pizza that evening and scanned his card, that was my first thought, that he'd been hacked, but again no card in the house so it really only leads to them doesn't it?? What do you all reackon.? Please be kind, my girl is really upset and is hoping to find the card somewhere in the house, of course she wants to stay friends with them but won't if we find out 100% they took it
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If my uncle can run up a $10000 debt on my dads credit card (while living under my dads roof) those boys could steal your credit card.
It took my uncle 3 years to admit he did it, despite there being video evidence.
Of course these boys did this. Luckily we are in a modern age where unusual purchases get picked up faster, my parents didn’t find out until they got the bill.
Oh Hun, you have a beautiful soul to want to see the best in these troubled boys but I think deep down you know that they did this. It's just too much of a coincidence, it happened an hour after they left, the items were ordered to an address in your area. Really think about that...
Of course they're going to deny it and of course they're going to act like stealing from someone with a disability goes against their moral code. The truth is, they don't have a moral code, they are young men who have a sense of entitlement to do what they please and take what they want - they couldn't care less who they hurt!
I grew up in a high crime area, people like this so easily win you over with their charm. I know all too well how easy it is to believe that "good person just making bad choices" notion. It's a total act though and it's that niceness that makes people like this so dangerous because they can manipulate you into trusting them.
I'll just add that, I had a friend in high school that came from a really tough home life (parents were addicts, all older siblings in and out of prison, she'd been in trouble with the law herself). She stole a pair of my mums diamond earrings off the coffee table and she was in our house for about 3 minutes while I changed. Took me years to believe she did it because I naively assumed she was nice and someone who was my friend wouldn't do that.
It's a hard one until there is proof. Assuming the patio is out the front anyone that approached your door between the card being left there and the time it was noticed gone could have pocketed it. Or he could have thought he'd put it on the table because he always does when in fact it's potentially been dropped in the street after he paid for his pizza.
I was "one of those kids", so was my partner. It's not something we would have ever done, or contemplated doing. I'm not saying they didn't, just that they might not have.
Yeah no we didn't go to the pizza man he dropped and ran due to covoid, they don't come close. And like I said hubby paid for the pizza online but scanned his card, apparently he does that always when ordering pizza. Then left his card on the table where we were all sitting. We've checked the area out side, looked under every cushion on the chairs, the tables been cleaned off. He said he's checked the room thoroughly (I don't know how good a look he had) I just had as much of a look as I can just a minute ago and nothing. it's really looking like it's been taken as much as I don't want to believe it. Thanks for your reply
Stop not wanting to believe it and believe it because it’s your daughter who they will bring undone in the long run. You need to report this to the police and give them the address the parcel was sent. Not only will they be accountable for what they have done and will probably continue to do, they will hurt your daughter and end up getting her in shit eventually. Obviously they aren’t nice boys. They all come across nice when they want to. They aren’t stupid. They obviously took the card. Go to the police and deal with it, given them the address the parcel was sent to. Have them charged. Prevent this from happening again and protect your daughter from them. They have a bad reputation for a reason. Keep your daughter away from them. They are trouble.
If it helps your conscience don't accuse them, (but don't have them around) until it's clear. Report it, let police and bank follow it up. You will no doubt find it was them. And stop saying madly in love with her. He is not, he's a player and he's playing. There's no respect there.
Exactly.. he prob tells her that and rips her off behind her back!
Can you go to the exact address for the transaction and see who lives there?
Best the police do it’s so they can charge who it is and get to the bottom of it. I wouldn’t want my daughter hanging around people like that if it was them. I’d be charging them and teaching them a good lesson. Never know what else the police will find there.
Did you go to the address that the stuff was being posted to?
Do not be so naive and go to the police. These boys need to be charged. Of course they won’t admit it. Atleast the police can track
The address it was sent to. Also you need to do it for your daughter sake so she stops hanging out with them before they destroy her too. Give it time!! Go to the police ASAP and get it sorted out and find out the truth.!
Especially if they are saying it wasn’t them, I’d be going to the police. If it wasn’t them, then they would hopefully charge the person who did steal the card
If it was left outside on your porch, anyone could of taken it.
If your daughter is smoking weed to, it could of been her as well. I dated a guy who would steel from his parents and would say it was someone else. Not saying it was her. It could of been anyone.
Report to the police. They can track down the address the items were sent to and see who it was.