Does anyone have a husband who does absolutely NOTHING around the house? I mean, won’t vacuum or do any form of washing at all? I’m finding it so hard. I’ve told him time and time again but it just goes in one ear and out the other.
Does anyone have a husband who does absolutely NOTHING around the house? I mean, won’t vacuum or do any form of washing at all? I’m finding it so hard. I’ve told him time and time again but it just goes in one ear and out the other.
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Told him or asked him? What do you mean he refuses..? Does he have a tantrum or just not do it. Make a chore list and stick to it.
Can’t help with hubby as I’m single, but if you have kids get them helping now. Make sure both boys and girls can do everything around the house. My boys started basic chores at about 3, with more being added as they’ve gotten older. They are 15 and 12 now and can put the washing on, hang it out, bring it in and fold it, cook a number of different meals for dinner, vacuum and mop, pretty much everything.
I depends on how the house runs, does he work? Do you work? Do you ask him to give you a hand or do you tell him what he has to do? If my OH told me what chores I had to do for that day he would be told to get f*cked
If I’m feeling like the only one who is doing anything around the house I call a working bee! Each family member is responsible for tidying a room, husband will do bathrooms, 9 yo lounge room, 7 yo bedroom and I’ll do the kitchen. Makes me feel so much better if everyone chips in and less like I’m a housemaid.
I used to ask my partner for help, he didn’t do it so now he has a chore chart 🤷♀️
Sounds childish but I got pissed waiting for things to be done, we both work, it’s not just my job to keep the house clean
He grew up in a house where his mother done everything till the day he moved out, my parents had a different approach, we were cooking and cleaning with mum when we were little then when we started high school we had to do our own washing, clean our rooms help
Around the house and such my partner never had to do any sort of chore so he thought he didn’t have to when we moved in. Now with his chore chart at least he knows what he has to do, and then technically I’m not nagging him constantly to get it done
I was in this situation and it ended in separation for us.
After asking, telling, begging, crying for help, writing rosters, etc. I got nowhere and in the end it just felt like a huge lack of respect that I couldn't get past.
My only advice is to get onto it early, maybe even get counselling if you are both willing and you think it might help, because if nothing changes the resentment only builds with time.
Same here, he would come into the kitchen just after I'd clean, make a sandwich, leave crumbs everywhere (or use his hand to wipe them onto the floor), tell me he'd clean up later (which means never). Same with the bathroom, finish cleaning and he'd decide he needed to shave and leave a huge mess. Reckons he didn't even realise he was doing it. Well, I don't have to worry about that any more, and it feels like a monkey has been taken off my back.
My husband only does something in the house if I ask or have a dummy spit, my fault for spoiling him for so long, only time he really chips in is if we have visitors coming to stay and I ask.
He does have a very physically demanding job and I have a desk job, so I understand that he works "harder" than me in physical sense. I blame myself though for being a good wife and doing too much from the start!
Yes, my partner. He is Turkish and was raised that way, his mum did everything around the house and his dad worked.
I work fulltime we have 2 children together , ihave a child from different relationship and his 2 children every 2nd weekend..
He doesn't help cook. Or even get up for our baby!
It pisses me off so much..too say I'm exhausted would be an understatement.
Its like i have 6 kids.
He is the laziest son of a bitch in the world.
He gets to do all the things he wants all the friggin time, he acts like he has no responsibilities. If I was too have a nap on the weekend he would lose his shit and call me every name under the sun.
When I have asked for help i have to remind him time and time again that we aren't in the early 1800's and men help with household duties.. his reply is inside the house is where the female belongs..
I will soon show him where the female begins and change the locks to the damn house
I feel like I got ripped off when I see my sister's partner doing things like he should..
Mine does absolutely nothing I have medical issues and requires injections in my spine every 3 days at the moment hence sedation and heavy painkillers Last night he chucked a hissy fit because i didn't cook dinner for him
That's not good at all, even lazy hubby step up when they have to. Your guy sounds like a complete asshole 😥