I'm in such a love hate relationship we have been together for nearly 5 years this time around after ending things many years before then decided to get back together. We have had our dramas and he has always been a drinker but things are getting worse. I love him when he's sober he's so funny kind and caring but as soon as he starts drinking he turns into this arrogant narsacistic pig and is just down right mean. The days of him being sober are becoming few and far between. I hate him when he drinks he will put me down make me feel the size of an ant , he then goes to the pub for hours and hours spends all our money on the pokies. I think it's time to get out I just don't know where to start , we have 6 children between us and just moved to a new house paying high priced rent which I don't want to leave all in his hands but I can't keep doing this , every 2nd night I cry myself to sleep after listening to "true facts" about myself and what a shit human being I am and how fat and disgusting I am. My self esteem at this point couldn't get any lower. I could totally be a nasty person and be like I'm leaving right now and leave him in financial ruins but I've got the kids to think about too so i don't know what to do at this point. He doesn't think he has a problem by the way.
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Leases can be broken. People break them all the time.
You need to leave. Staying with him isn’t helping the kids.
Yeah you probably can’t just walk out the door, but you can make a plan to leave. Honestly this sounds like a DV situation, verbal abuse is abuse!
Is there someone you and your kids can stay with while you get yourself sorted out?
Ring whoever is in charge of leases and find out what your rights are.
Don’t worry about ruining him financially cause I can assure you he isn’t thinking about that why he flushes money down the pokies and in booze! He is leaving himself in this situation.
You aren’t thinking about your kids, they are seeing it and living it too. Get some help and get out of there. You and your kids don’t deserve this. Be happy and free. Life is too short.! Also stop taking on what he calls you. You are not any of these things. You are an amazing mummy to 6 kids. More than he is a man or father. He is an alcoholic. it’s an awful addiction. Start thinking about you and your kids.!