My toddlers father & I seperated just over 1 year ago. I am after any advice / suggestions as to what other people have found to be the most effective communication & parenting apps for both parties to use to communicate with the other parent & arrange shared care please.
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An app? Really?
And?
Ffs, try talking to each other like adults! You were okay to fuck to make a child but can’t hold a conversation and need an app?
Someone has got her head up her arse today.
Yes that poster. Mature enough to pop out a kid, not mature enough to talk to an adult 😂
Wow you're a nasty cunt today aren't you! It's none of your business why she needs an ap. Suggest one or fuck off.
Not quite a lady.
There are a whole wealth of reasons why they cannot communicate.
My situation, we weren't at all amicable. The family court ordered a communication book. These are great but easily lost or misplaced.
An app gives real time user friendly chronological data that can be downloaded be it through the courts or on any device with accounts being only available to the parents.
I feel like your statement, like some others, is quite ignorant and clearly mum wants communication but for whatever reason, verbal unstructured communication isn't ideal.
That is a bit of a naive comment. (With all due respect) There are many women that have fleed DV relationships that would benefit great from that sort of an idea.
This has to be a joke right?
Why would it be a joke? Doesn't even need to be an ap, it could be a chart, or a PowerPoint presentation graph. Relationships are very complex things for some people, if it works for them, what's it to you.
She probably wants reliable records of the communication? Maybe she doesn't want ex to know her phone number or messenger? You are all quick to judge, this is a smart idea in some circumstances.
You answered this poster sensibly. Unlike the other sheep on here copying one another to get a reaction from ppl, and upset the poster while they are at it.
In certain DV situations this is unfortunately necessary for safety, especially when dealing with narcissists. I am actually really surprised at some people's narrow minds here. 😥
This, so much this!
I’ve been in court rooms where the judge has recommended people communicate through a special type of software.
What about a gmail calendar or simillar? Could put in the childs swim lessons, birthday parties so you can keep track of info to share? Depends how friendly you are with the ex and the purpose of the app you are looking for I guess.
Some courts and psychologists recommend the use of apps for such communication when the mothers life has previously been in danger at the hands of the father. It is a good record for courts also.
But remember, the bunch of know it all mouths on here know better. Not some useless psychologist or professional court of law.
I use the time tree app. Makes shared care easy because I put in swimming dates, birthday parties, school events etc and we can both update them.
My calendar has my mum,sister in law, sister, best friend. So not an ex per se, but would work for same reason.
I’m a shift worker, so this way everyone helps coordinate my sons care, and we have a group chat too. My mum does most pickups from school, so is generally the first to hear of school events, she puts them in the app and send me a message.
It’s easier to see what I have going on work wise, and when I can help out with my nieces/nephews and we can all share responsibilities of dropping off and collecting kids.
Takes a community when everyone’s working :-)
So I don't have any experience with this but maybe Whatsapp or some kind of family calender would work?
Maybe just go into the app store on your device and search for communication apps, do a little research to figure out which ones meet your needs.
Also, some of these comments - what the hell's that about guys?
Pretty sure you didn't need to mock this woman for her choice to communicate via an app, especially when you have no idea why that choice was made to begin with!
Do you just mean like a diary/planner that you can both log into to know your toddlers appointments/where abouts each day ect?
Gee wizz, some got their knickers in a knot about this post but I am sure you're just after somewhere to keep things organised that your ex can clearly see to! And there are such apps, just don't know whay they are called lol but Google will help. I think there is a few.
Maybe email and you both update your own calendars? I'd always be dubious about how much my phone is sharing that I didn't notice. Bloody thing thinks it's smarter than me and probably is lol.
I remember being in your situation and sometimes post separation, you cant be amicable and it's easier to just text and email.
We had a communication book ordered by the courts. There are some apps out there that record parenting plans and communication. They organize dates for access and are very user friendly.
It helps when communication books are lost or misplaced between houses and keeps an accurate view of entries accessible to both parties. Similar to school intranet software.
If things arent amicable and communication is inappropriate for whatever reason, I would consider seeing a family relationships counselor or contact family court for some software.
Goodluck to both of you, it is truly a shame but maybe this is for the best and always remains hopeful that you can move beyond this point.