Has anyone been through the court system with a narasictic ex who has lied about drug tests, been out of his child’s life for pretty much half but now back, being court by police with drugs, constant breaching in court orders and a lot of other stuff like trying to make the child eat wild animal feaces etc and still been forced to give them everything they want?
I don’t seem to be being listened to within our court system and unfortunately keep being forced to give more and more time.
I’m feeling pretty low. And needing some re assurance!
We have another court date due and if no agreement is made on what I haven’t been forced to agree on than the courts will decide.
Has anyone been in a situation like this and at the end been listened to ?
Any tips on what to do next?
And is there anything you wish you added in final orders but never did?
Thank you heaps
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Unfortunately I can't advise based on first hand experience for you, but I do know it helps to document every little detail you can to build up evidence on your side. Text msgs, time line diaries etc.
I have a mutual friend going through the courts at the moment and I can see it slowly destroying them. Big hugs. Remember also, children are smart and will see through a parent who tells them lies and puts down their ex, and will remember if a parent shows kindness no matter what.
If you can stay out of court it's best. Unfortunately the courts see the "meaningful relationship" more paramount than the child being free from harm. I've been through it and was and still am quite astonished at the way the system is letting children and abused partners down.
Document basics only in a diary if there is a lot going on. Remember that they will try any way possible to make you the "unfriendly" parent.
You have to be "friendly" but at the age time protect your child.
Good luck and I wish you well, stay strong.