There’s this guy I’ve known for about 3 years. We don’t quite mix in the same social circle, but many mutual friends know each other and we often see each other at events. We have been on and off sexting one another on Snapchat for the last 3 years. Had the hots for each other for ages, but one or another of us was in a relationship, so nothing physical happened.
A couple of weeks ago, we hooked up. Did all manner of naughty things in my car. He messaged me on and off after, sent me some saucy snaps on Valentine’s Day, a couple days later, a snap here and there.
Next minute, deletes me off his Snapchat.
Has deleted and re added me several times over the years.
Sent him a message on Instagram asking if I did something wrong, he assures me I did not, only he’s been seeing a chick (I knew he was seeing someone but he said it wasn’t serious or anything at that stage), and she was really annoyed at him having girls on Snapchat, and he will re add me later when things die down.
On insta, tells me he really wants to continue our messing around and asks me to send him pics in his favourite top, which I did.
I am not wanting a relationship with this bloke, just a friend with benefits arrangement.
Can anyone shed light on what’s going on here??
F*ckboy
F*ckboy
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You are his bit on the side. He just uses you when it’s convenient for him. He keeps you hanging around cause it stroked his ego and He uses you when he wants a wank. You are convenient because he can keep you hidden from whatever relationship he is supposed to be in.
What is going on is you're a bit stupid. He has a girlfriend. Do yourself a favour and stop sending him photos and messages.
He is using you instead of his hand and pornhub.
He finally got to fuck you, now has no use for you. He accomplished what he wanted. Do your self a favour, stop sending him messages and putting yourself out there for him and leave him and his girlfriend alone.
He should also stop sending messages to this lady if he’s in a relationship though
They have both been sending nudes and messages to each other while the other was in a relationship. IMO they are both as bad as each other. And a “ lady” doesn’t screw a dude when she knows he is seeing someone else
An unattached FB wouldn't need to delete you from his accounts. You're the other woman to him and all he wants is to keep you hidden but accessible. I'm sorry, it doesn't matter how good the sex was - you're better than this. Leave him alone, maybe pick up again later if you're sure he's single if you want to but I reckon he's shown you the dog he can be so you ought to just relish it in your own wankbank and move along.
He has a girlfriend and hooks up with you when he's bored or she's not around. He doesn't like you and is treating you as though you're disposable and you are letting him.
He’s in a relationship girl. You are the side chick. Fuck him off if you are looking for anything serious coz you ain’t gonna get it.
I think the OP mentioned she wasn’t after a relationship with him
Then it shouldn't be a problem for her to cut contact. After she was deleted from Snapchat she asked him why and sent more photos.
Yes, after he asked for them. It doesn’t appear she sent photos after he says he didn’t want any. Refer to the OP. It said he told her he will add her back when the girlfriend is no longer suss, and that the deleting and re adding has happened in the past.
It doesn't matter if he asked for them, she still sent them. This is all a bit too complicated for someone that just wants a fuck buddy. If it were me I would have been gone when he first started deleting her, nobody has time for games.
You're being used for dirty pics and sex. Move on. He's not worth it.
To be honest, I think they’re both using each other for dirty pics and sex. If it were me, and no one was in a relationship, I’d say go for it.
If one or both of you are in a relationship, you’re kind of having some class of an affair.
Don’t send/receive sexy messages and texts when you’re in a relationship or they’re in a relationship. Even though you only want a fwb, he thinks you’re down for anything because of the way you’ve behaved in the past. Even fwb should have a level of respect, he doesn’t have any.
Find a better hook up, with a guy who is completely single or you will find yourself in messy situations like these. Good luck, keep your standards even though you just want a hook up, you still deserve to be respected and you should respect others as well. Casual doesn’t give you any kind of pass to engage with attached people.
You live and learn, just don’t engage with him anymore, on and up!!
Also the word Fck boy...not classy.
Hes just not that into you.
Read that again. And again.
They might seem one way, but if he is into you he would make it happen. If he's not there with you, he's with someone else regardless of everything else he's not that into you.
Have a bit of respect for yourself and the other girl in this situation. You’re an easy option for him, you shouldn’t be encouraging his behaviour when you know he’s seeing someone else. The girl saying she doesn’t want him having girls on Snapchat has obviously said that for the reason proven. Have some morals!
💡 if you want a fuck buddy, find someone who is SINGLE. Don’t matter if it’s nothing serious because all relationship starts off as not serious until it does. This guy saying it’s not serious but obviously serious enough to delete your ass, then he’s saying you’re expendable. If he has no respect for the girl he’s in a relationship with, he has none for you. Syphilis is on the rise and there’s a treatment resistant strain around.
Just the title... like really?