Ever since birth my baby would cry terribly when taken away for health checks. Is happy, healthy & in a loving home. Has been in child care for a few months (who are great, really kind, supportive & I have full trust in how they care for my child).
We have a lovely morning routine before child care of food, cuddles, play, songs & smiles.
They always start getting upset when I take them into the room, and then when I leave they cry a lot. It's gone from 15 minutes of crying to under 3 minutes. I find the only way to drop off it is to kiss them, hand them over to the educator & leave quickly. I feel terrible that they get upset, and I wonder what I am doing wrong. Other parents stand around and hug their children & their children don't cry. I have to leave my child using the hand straight over method because it's the only way they will settle. If I stand there child just keeps crying and pointing at me. But I feel like a bad mum for having to hand them over and leave.
Is it just me? Do other parents have this experience?
Separation anxiety
Separation anxiety
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Totally normal.
This was my son from 9months to 3 years. You have nothing to worry about
Yep 6 months in and my daughter still cries at daycare drop off. Lasts a couple of minutes after I'm gone then she's good to go. Totally normal!
Totally normal. Just part of their development 😊
Normal and you're doing the right thing by handing them over quickly. I once sat my 5 year old on the sad chair at school because I had just had enough one day so don't feel bad 😂
No, it's not just you. Don't compare yourself with other parents, nor your child with other children. Your baby is settling quickly once you leave, so the situation is improving. My daughter is 8 and she still needs me to leave quickly when I drop off at school, and struggles with goodbyes to others as well. It's just the way she is and it's ok.
Yeah this is me with my three year old, he's been this way for a year now. Just enrolled him in a new childcare centre to see if there will be any improvement.
Do they stay with anyone else, grandparents etc so like do you take them anywhere to be looked after away from you?? My son is with me pretty much all the time. He stays with my mum is his own environment and hers. He stays with my sisters and nieces too. But when he is not completely trusting in an environment he starts to get upset and carry on. I’m pretty sure it’s developmental. You do not say how old your child is but they do go through phases where they want to see how far they can push to get their own way etc from what I’ve seen the kids that get upset at daycare drop offs usually settle pretty quickly. The crying will not hurt them. It’s not hurt any of the kids I’ve watched scream and carry on when their mums walked out of the door whilst my older 2 were in day care. If he’s old enough. There’s a tv show called Daniel tiger. Look for the grown ups come back episode. You can you tube it too.
I’m not the poster but I love that Daniel tiger episode. How good is the show in general. Have you seen the new movie wonderful day in the neighbourhood? I had no idea the show was based on the American show until I saw it.
All 3 of my kids are and were like this. Totally normal. Will get easier the older they get. Hang in there. It’s intense but your not alone 😃