Crush

Anon Imperfect Mum

Crush

As the saying goes, im married not dead.

I have developed a crush on a co-worker but its purely physical and i have no plans to act on it. Anyone have any tips to make it stop or is it something that will pass with time?

Posted in:  Relationships & Marriage

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Put as much distance between you and this person as physically possible. It should pass but if it doesn’t I would be looking for a different job

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Totally normal and natural.
I would just avoid as much contact as possible. Don't really talk to them unless you have to. It's okay to have a perve but definintly keep at arms length (and don't turn it into anything more then a physical crush).

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Anon Imperfect Mum

What's wrong with having a bit of good hard sex with someone else? Its natural. You're married not dead as you said. Ur marriage certificate is just a filed stamped A4 form with a signature or two to satisfy a lawful legality of a ceremony. It doesn't make you owned by anyone. So have all the sex you want with whoever you want.

Do NOT take this advice , Lol. Absolutely stay neutral, do not act on your feelings. In time this crush will blow over. Unlike love, that lasts, crushes don't. Use this energy to flirt with your husband, do some fun husband and wife things. Never allow yourself to b in a position alone with your crush and don't communicate outside of a cowork task.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

I hope OP read the second paragraph, not to find her crush after the first one 😂

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Anon Imperfect Mum

🤣🤣🤣

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Bahahaha

Green light for a Toyota Corolla with truck brakes

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Think of their flaws.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

I came here to post this exact question!
My other half and I are getting married in November and I’ve got quite a crush on the builder that’s completing the renovations at our work (my partner and I work together).
I know that when the renovations are finished I’ll never see him again so I just have a laugh when I bump into the builder occasionally during the day.
My partner knows that I think the builder is FINNEEEEE.
And at the end of the day I’m going home to bed with my other half and I don’t put myself into a position where the builder and I are alone.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

I came here to post this exact question!
My other half and I are getting married in November and I’ve got quite a crush on the builder that’s completing the renovations at our work (my partner and I work together).
I know that when the renovations are finished I’ll never see him again so I just have a laugh when I bump into the builder occasionally during the day.
My partner knows that I think the builder is FINNEEEEE.
And at the end of the day I’m going home to bed with my other half and I don’t put myself into a position where the builder and I are alone.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

It will pass! 😁 They still fart and scratch them selves like anyone else, be mindful and keep your distance.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Cudos for you for recognising it and choosing your marriage and not a silly crush!! You’re right you’re married not dead!!

Put the fire from the crush into your marriage and improving things with hubby. I think the fact you acknowledge that you have a crush yet you’re still choosing you’re marriage shows you’re getting over it already!!

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Anon Imperfect Mum

I’m pretty sure nearly every married woman has been where you are right now.
I definitely have and I let my imagination run wild, get myself all wound up and then take it out on my husband (in the best possible way 😉) these little infatuations rarely last longer than 4-6 weeks in my case.

We will always find different people or situations attractive at different points in our life and that’s normal but acting on it or not is a conscious choice that could have life changing consequences.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

I’m pretty sure nearly every married woman has been where you are right now.
I definitely have and I let my imagination run wild, get myself all wound up and then take it out on my husband (in the best possible way 😉) these little infatuations rarely last longer than 4-6 weeks in my case.

We will always find different people or situations attractive at different points in our life and that’s normal but acting on it or not is a conscious choice that could have life changing consequences.

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