Please no judgment: today i broke, today i hit rock bottom. I am a mum of two boys. 11 and 7. My 7 yr old is a very clever, smart and can be the most beautiful well mannered kid. Then there is his other side....he just doesn't stop. From the moment he wakes up in the morning to the moment he falls asleep. The fighting with his brother, the back chatting, the swearing, he just doesn't listen. He can stand there and literaly smile or look straight threw you while you're talking tp him and turn around and say "i dont have to". I feel like im constantly telling him off, or yelling at him. I feel like as his mum there is no respect, i don't know where he was learnt this behaviour. Nothing i do seems to work. I try do fun activities with them on the weekends etc and he throws it back in my face and will crack the shits like an ungrateful child. I dread having to do the shopping with him or in all honesty i hate take him anywhere because he just constanly plays up. I hate when people tell me how much of a nice kid he is (which dont get me wrong he can be) i am forever finding myself in tears on the floor exhausted from him. please, this tired and broken mumma needs to some advice on what to do
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Has he been assessed by a paediatrician? That would be my first step
I get it. I really do. I go there a lot. I have a 7 year old autistic child & 3 year old in a power struggle with everyone. Currently it's over toileting. Sometimes I hide & cry & feel no one cares as long as I keep doing it!
I have a friend with a child who sounds very familiar to yours. He's been diagnosed & help is improving the situation. It's worth getting assessed. Getting help for my son is the only thing that gives me the tools both he & I need to manage his differences.
Have a chat to your GP .... That sounds like my son who is diagnosed with ADHD. When we started to addess that is helped everything. Not overnight and we still have our rough days but it is a million time better.
Also have a read of the five love languages of kids - changed how I interacted with all my kids.
Good luck.