The question I have for you all is would you tell a good friend one of her so called good friends is bagging her.
I'm great mates with the chick being bagged but not much friends with the chick doing the bagging but those 2 are great friends.
I've met her many times always chat if we run into each other and are friends on facebook but would never catch up alone ect..
I've had information come back to me through a good source that this woman was really going to town on my friend. Told her really private information about her marriage, her health , finances and her parenting. She pretty much covered it all and was rather nasty about it.
One thing that frustrates me is my friend does HEAPS for this chick & pretty much drops everything to keep her happy.
I wasn't going to tell her details of the bitching as that's too hurtful. Was more thinking of saying I had heard some stuff & that maybe she needed to be careful around her from now on ect...
So do I just stay out of it & let me friend figure out the friendship for herself or say something?
Also I don't care if this chick finds out I've said something that's not a concern
Would you tell a good friend she's being bitched about
Would you tell a good friend she's being bitched about
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I would tell her. I've been in your friends position before and I absolutely hate the fact that nobody told me what was going on.
I would probably leave it. Chances are it will get back to her evenutally. Id just be worried to look like the one causing drama or being petty...
At the very least, id tell her VERY basics and noot that she needs to be careful (i always find that line degrading) but just that you thought you would be doing the right thing by telling her what youd heard, but leaving the rest to her. She gets to decide if she needs to be careful/block out her friend or continue on like nothing
You have to be really careful in these scenarios because the messenger often ends up looking like the bad guy. The fact that you have come into this information from a 'friend of a friend' also makes this all a bit shaky, even if you believe it to be credible.
I've just seen so many friendships blow up because of miscommunication and comments being misconstrued by well meaning but ultimately ill-informed friends, so...
I feel like if you must, a general not naming names kind of "hey, I've heard a bit of gossip going around about you. Might be worth watching what you're talking about with people".
Chances are she'll put two and two together.
You say you got it from a “source” if you didn’t hear it with your ears or see it with your eyes don’t spread it with your mouth 🤷🏼♀️
I would tell your friend about this nasty bitch. Your friend deserves to know.
Maybe you could drop hints and say you shouldn’t do so much for her, seems like she uses you a lot. Tell her you have heard a few things from people that she has told them. Hopefully she stops doing stuff for her and realises. Tread gently as she will be so hurt or may not believe it.
I was at work the other day, long story short, one of the girls bitched about my friend in regards to his business and the prices. I told him because he is a genuine person and i dont like my mates being bitched about
Yes
I have been the one being bagged out. Being in the dark, thinking you had a best friend and finding out they would bitch behind your back.
Tried to sort it out but we are no longer friends. Once a gossip always a gossip. Also sadly they are usually charismatic and the people hearing all this gossip believe them. I have lost family and friends over this person. Nip it in the butt early.
It sounds like my ex friend to a tee!!!!!