Confused and Frustrated

I’ve told you my story before, it’s a lot the same but more intense. My husband I don’t have a great relationship. There’s no respect, friendship, intimacy, trust, honesty you name it that’s us. We have children been married for 13 years this year. There’s been so much stress in our relationship over finances respectfulness etc. which has really made us resent one other. Unfortunately my husband is very selfish and has said things like “go use your toys” after he has got off when having sex. That was a deal breaker for me. He didn’t think it was a big deal until I told him and told him how it made me feel. Then he was sorry. He’s always sorry and I forgive but never forget. I don’t forget as it’s the same shit over and over. I definitely feel I’m been taken for granted in so many ways. He never supports me. He cannot make decisions which infuriates me. He shrugs and walks away he sweeps everything under the carpet. I’ve tried and tried. I’ve spoken to counsellors, doctors on my own thinking it’s me as he’s telling me things are in my head and I’m crazy.
I’ve been on forums I’ve taken the good with the bad he’s told me to change my mindset, I did as I was told it was me. He’s angry he says things that he’s been holding in that is hurtful. After he’s calmed he apologises. I was slowly knowing this wasn’t right especially have children. It’s not healthy for any of us. I told him I couldn’t do it anymore (I’ve said it before, he’s told me to leave) I was serious he knew I was. He moved out for 2 nights. He went to his Mum and dads. Told me he couldn’t stay with them as his dad is always drunk his mum treats him like he’s 10 (he’s 47) he came home. I started looking at houses as I’m not one to procrastinate it’s all come to a stop as my daughter broke her foot so been busy with that. This is the longest period for say 5 years we haven’t yelled screamed etc. Not sleeping in same room, we are basically room mates.
What do I do? Move? Stay?