Hey ladies,
Straight to the point. My husband drinks quite a bit, most nights. He gets drunk at most social events, even if we have agreed it’s his ‘turn’ to drive. I am not against drinking, i love a glass of wine or two, but i feel he goes next level with it, and i’m very angry to say he drink drives too. the reason i’m writing this right now is because he has arrived home from work after having scotch with his boss and he is slurring and falling asleep, don’t know how much he drank but seems drunkish. i’m so angry. I’m not even sure what i’m asking of everyone?! he is late 30s, we have 3 kids... wtf do i do? i’m feeling very emotional.
husband with drinking problem
husband with drinking problem
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Ultimatum time! And be prepared to follow through. If you aren’t prepared to leave then this is your life
Are you married to my ex? If he’s not going to admit it’s an issue, he’s not going to change and it’s time to go. Sorry
If this were my partner, I'd report him to the police. I truly would!
You'd have a rough idea when he's driving drunk and where from - report it! You may very well save his life, or more importantly, the life of an innocent person just trying to get from A to B.
I'd also be giving him the choice, either sort your shit out or we're done!
Hey lovely i’m the IM who posted. i never know when he is going to do it, he told me he was working late and showed up in that state, unfortunately he ignores my calls quite often and i don’t know what he’s doing really. but i fully agree with you
I'd still report just a general description, surely that would be helpful. His favourite pubs, a rough idea of when he's not at work but not yet home. Even just letting them know he's regularly drink driving, his car and licence number, where he leaves work from, the general area he'd be travelling in etc.
It's probably just sheer luck he hasn't been caught yet anyway!
Good luck, this must be really hard for you x
A few big fines and a couple of months without a license has sorted out most of the people I know who used to drink and drive.
When it was my partner I drove him nowhere. He had to walk to the shops and he had to organise a lift to and from work.
As someone who was considered to be a high functioning alcoholic for 10 years... there is no excuse ever for drink driving. Not once in those years did I ever get behind the wheel drunk or even with alcohol in my system. Just because I have a problem I was not going to put others at risk.
Does he think he has a problem? He needs rehab but is he doesn't think he has a problem it wont work.
People are so nasty when it comes to alcoholism while having little to no knowledge about it's true form. It is a disease that needs professional treatment. He is an addict no different to a heroin user it's just the drug that is different. Stopping cold turkey can be lethal so don't ask him to do that.
He is miserable and hiding behind the drug of alcohol. He needs rehab no it's or buts about it.
I would give an ultimatum... get treatment or get out. Most addicts have to hit rock bottom before seeking help and that could be it for him. If not kick him out. You can't help him he has to help himself.
I have been here. Twice. I could have written this myself word for word. Because I myself love to drink I have found myself twice in relationships with men who are alcoholics. My ex wasn’t prepared to even admit he had a problem, shit went bad fast. My current partner however when given the ultimatum to ‘shape up or ship out’ has quit the drink and is working very hard to stay sober and create a sober lifestyle. I have also had to stop drinking to help him and honestly my life has flourished without alcohol. I’m so proud of him, he’s a better parent and has more energy, we have both lost weight. We have rules in place, we are allowed 5 occasions per year to drink. But in all honesty, apart from both of us having the occasional anxiety or shitty day at work, we don’t feel like drinking. The dry ginger ale, soda water and Cadbury are getting a workout though LOL. Quitting together has been amazing but the thing is, we both wanted to stop.