My husband is an amazing man. Truly.
After giving birth to our youngest I suffered through post natal depression. So much so my husband quit his job to be home with the kids, while I attended psychiatric treatment centres (3 over 1 year period). Recently (about another year on) I have returned to work and he has become the stay at home parent while our children are young 3 kids aged 2-6.
Our relationship has always been fantastic, yes we have had our ups and downs through my PND but he has been unwavering in his support and love.
Things were going well but now I'm pregnant again. And although doing well mentally, psychically I am tired from work (very psychical job) working 5-6 days a week while people are away over the summer and when I do come home I fall asleep by 8. My husband says it's fine, but I can tell he is feeling a bit pushed aside. I feel awful because I want to spend time with him when the kids are in bed but I'm exhausted.
What is something I can do daily or weekly to show him how much he truly does mean to me. We don't have the finances right now to have a night away so I was thinking small scale. Any ideas would be so appreciated
Something special for a special husband
Something special for a special husband
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As a stay at home parent of 3 and one on the way the best thing my husband can do for me is to get up early on the weekend with the kids and let me have a sleep in. Or take the kids out for an hour or two so I can have some time to myself. It's when he does it without me having to ask that I feel as though he sees me and notices that I need a break.
As for couples activities - cook a nice meal. Organise a night of cards or board games. Watch a movie together. We always make sure every night to just lay in bed together - hubby usually gets back up and I go to sleep but it's quality time just to debrief and talk, cuddle, be just us and finishes the day on a nice note
I love this!!! Just remember it's ok that you're tired - your husband knows it too that's why he days it's ok and he likely means it!! For me it really is the small things that make me feel appreciated- something as small as my husband making sure he asks how my day was and then genuinely listening to the ins and out of my day despite how mundane they may seem! I also second the getting up with the kids on weekends or giving him an hour to himself on the weekend makes a huge difference! Just make sure you are getting down time as well even if it is an hour a week!
Blow job.
Having been there, the best thing you can do is find what makes you special and let it shine through again.