Ladies some food for thought... would love to hear your views.
In the real world if I was texting back and forth with random men while in a relationship it would be deemed wrong. If I was calling random men while in a relationship again it would be wrong. If I was sending random men ❤️ because I like what they had to say and my partner saw it of course it would be upsetting and possibly viewed as something dodgy was going on.
But on Facebook... anything goes. Constantly chatting to random people... sending strangers ❤️...it’s all ok?
My partner is on multiple Facebook sites and regularly chats back and forth with other woman and receives many ❤️ from strange woman.
Have the times changed that much? Is it ok as long as it’s on Facebook? Do we just not care anymore?
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I have never cared.
Security in a relationship is crucial. I don’t people being upset with innocent friendships between the opposite sex.
If it's a new behaviour then yeah, be worried. Especially if he wouldn't be happy if the shoe was on the other foot.
I'm sure you will get called paranoid by the women who let their husbands get dry humped by strippers every Friday night but to me I think it's really disrespectful to interact with other women like this when you're in a marriage. If it's normal for him to act like that before you even met them it's obviously going to have to be accepted but if it's not normal for them to interact with the opposite sex this way then it's cause for concern.
I think it’s the content of the messages that matters. Not who someone is talking to or the the platform they are using to discuss.
If a male (in a relationship) starts messaging me and they try to move that conversation to In appropriate areas I will call them out on it every single time, just like I would in real life.
I’m not going to shut down anyone just cause they send a heart because I said my kid got out of hospital today.
Content and context matters.
Well it depends how much respect he has for you. My husband wouldn’t think to msg another girl
And if one did then he would read it out but mine
Isn’t on fb. He isn’t interested in it and what other people do.
I would be worried if I was you, that’s how it all starts. I’ve got many friends going through it. Yep they’ve been cheated on and this is how it started.