Living With Someone After AVO

Anon Imperfect Mum

Living With Someone After AVO

Can you live with someone you have an AVO on? We are reconciling and the police requested the AVO not me. No violence.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Talk to the police and the courts. Goodluck. If the police were involved, they probably felt it necessary.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Unless you get the AVO dropped then, no. It would be a breach of the AVO conditions (unless it says you can live together) and a breach can mean jail time.

Is it a good idea to live with someone who the police decided needed an AVO? No, it’s a terrible idea.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Incorrect. Not all AVO’s require parties to seperate.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

That’s why I wrote in brackets unless it says you can!

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Police requested AVO.
No violence?

Maybe sleep on it before you make a decision but it sounds fucking nuts to me.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

There is an apprehended violence order. It was put in place by law authorities who were so concerned that you weren't seeking it they put it in place on your behalf. I think you should get DV counselling so that you can identify what is violence. Also, it would be a breach to live with him. Talk to the police.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Only a breach of the AVO specifically states parties are not to have contact.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Yes. There are different types of AVO’s and some do not require you to live apart. It may just refer to you not threatening, intimidating or destroying property. Check your AVO or ask the police involved.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Police do not apply for these things without there being an issue... certainly not without an actual “violent act” having occurred. For them to apply I’m not sure all info is being provided here. I suggest talking to police and following the order very carefully. This doesn’t sound right at all.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Don’t do it.. and the answer is no! Don’t put yourself in harms away again. It’s been there for a reason.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

I am a neighbour of a young family who we had to put a private nuisance order on because he was abusing his family so often. She always denied it. The things he said were beyond abusive.
She covered for him so many times.

Heed the police

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Anon Imperfect Mum

I've been in your shoes and my advise is wait. Do not rush into it. Give it a year or so and if the relationship is Still good then get legal advise. But please wait

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Anon Imperfect Mum

I urge you to get DV counselling. Its easy for someone to justify their actions and sometimes, if they push that justification enough, you start to self doubt, and from the self doubt grows this idea that oh wait, their behaviour and actions were justified! Remember, violence is not always physical.
Before you make any decisions on your future with this person please seek counselling, talk to the support poeple in your life, and have an open mind when it comes to their opinions/thoughts.
This us really important for you and your future and if you have children, ESPECIALLY for them.

The police don't tend to hand out AVOs willy nilly. They tend to need some evidence/incident for it to pass through the magistrates court.

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