I'm hoping someone can help me a little bit.
My husband had a serious drug over dose (attempted suicide). He's been in am induced coma. As I'm being blamed for this horrible situation I'm being told nothing and I can't even be there for him 😥
What happens when he recovers? Will he be released from hospital or actually get the help he needs from the hospital (psych ward etc).
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I want to start with how very sorry I am that this has happened. It's fucking shit at any time of year let alone coming up to the holidays. I'd you haven't yet you need to prioritise your own support network.
Unless there are legal orders can his family stop you from seeing him at the hospital? I'd think as his wife the hospital would actually be more open to talking to you, especially if they knew that while the 2 of you were separated that you were getting along and working to repair your relationship. God knows what the family have told the hospital employees so if they're offside that could be why.
Just go, what are they going to do? Make you feel uncomfortable? What's more important? Even if they make a scene, keep your cool and have them removed from the room.
It doesn't sound like they're going to make it easy for you but it is up to you if it's worth fighting for.
I don't know what will happen after, I do know he has a greater chance of success with your support to seek help if the hospital don't organise anything. GP's are a good start, seek an appt with a psychiatrist rather than psychologist.
And be kind to yourself. You did not do this. He's a grown ass man that had a snap of irrational behaviour that he couldn't get past and by some blessing may be given a second chance. Many don't. I hope he wakes up and realises just what he has to live for.
I'm sorry this has happened but you're not at fault.
You can still be there as his wife so ask the medical team what is happening.
I’m so sorry this has happened! I’ll get to the point - I did what he’s done!
Once he is awake he will be given every option to get help maybe even admitted to the psych ward for a week or more. They’ll keep him in a coma until his bloodwork comes back clear of drugs. No one can blame you for him doing this to himself so get that out of your head! If someone wants to do this there’s nothing you can do they’ll find a way!
Be by his side no matter how high you’ve got to go up the chain in the hospital to do that for him! Don’t leave him to wake up alone.
As his wife you have a legal right to be with him! Enforce it! The nurses can’t tell u to stay away! What makes u feel you are to blame?
Can i ask why you are being blamed for it? That's pretty extreme for people to blame you.. there's something left out here...
I hope he recovers, and whatever he's been going through that he gets the professional help he needs.
If he is your legal husband and your being told nothing and not allowed to be there then please consider that his family (and or the hospital) may have reason to believe your relationship is toxic due to co-dependencies and or drug use. If this is the case then you need to take this time to get the help you need.
If I’m wrong then seek legal advice.
It really depends on why the family is blaming you. Nobody can really give a proper answer as it seems a massive part of the story is missing. The family and hospital may believe that it is in his best interest to have no contact with you.