Where do I start with anal? I want to explore this with my husband but I don’t know where to start for it to be enjoyble?
Where do I start with anal? I want to explore this with my husband but I don’t know where to start for it to be enjoyble?
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First off, ensure you get the correct lube. A silicone based one is what we always started off with and I just went to the sex store and asked for recommendations on silicone ones :) it doesn’t dry up at all and a little goes a long way. We also introduced anal beads, small ones at first and whilst hubby was doing me doggy he would very gently and slowly insert them.
Eventually that led to fingering and then penetration from him. The key is to go low and slow, don’t push too hard and just take it one inch at a time literally. The first time it won’t be jackhammer like sex it’ll be just very slow in and out.
To make you more comfortable, ensure you’ve also done a poo beforehand otherwise it will be messy and you do get the sensation you’ll poo yourself during it.
We’ve found using a dildo in my vagina or using the vibrator against my clitoris has helped to relax me whilst we are doing it :)
All of this. Plus make sure you’re aroused before you start any anal play. Talking about any hard boundaries you have before hand is helpful too, for instance do you want him to cum inside you or not.
Some people do enemas or washouts beforehand. Some don’t. Unlike anal porn though, a good rule, especially if you don’t use an enema, is once fingers, toys or cock have touched the anal area, they don’t go back and touch anywhere else unless you want a high risk of gastro or a UTI. E-coli infections are not a fun aftermath.
Lube! Lots of lube! We usually do it in the shower. I need to be really turned on and relaxed. Before any anal play happens, I need to have an orgams usually by hubby going down on me. Then he slowly starts fingering me. I need to have him playing with my clit as he enters me.
Make sure to go slow and at your pace not Hubby's. Make sure he listens to you and have a safe word if you need one, so he knows to stop immediately.
It can be very enjoyable and I get the most amazing orgams from Anal.
Poor hubby had to wait 13 years and become my Husband before we tried anal as I was so scared of the pain